Being the only parent...
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| Mon, 04-30-2007 - 10:14pm |
I mean in the sense that I am the only mature parent who has rules and boundaries. It's very frustrating! Somehow I am always vilified.
STBX has been phoning every night that he doesn't have the kids. Its' very annoying. But tonight he called and sat on the phone with my DS (4 y.o.) for half an hour. They were making stupid noises at each other over the phone, not talking. And the kid even took the phone into the bathroom with him. When I explained to him that taking the phone with him while he sits on the potty is not ok I became the bad guy. Then when i finally got on the phone with STBX to tell him that a 5 minute call is one thing, but half an hour on the phone with a 4 year old is too much I was asked why I am so mean. By the time my son got off the phone it was bed time and then he was complaining that he didn't get a chance to play.
I know I've asked this before, but how do you deal with being the "bad guy" because you want the kids to grow up understanding that there are rules and proper behaviour that have to be followed??

cbote
you have set ground rules and boundries that need to be respected. my stbx is unreasonable, so even discussing them with him is useless. continue to hold your ground. do your best to communicate the rules to stbx and continue to reinforce with your 4yr old. don't give into the bad guy speach, especially from stbx.
good luck
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Trust me on this one... let it go.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~