The BEST news ever...

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Registered: 12-29-2004
The BEST news ever...
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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 11:18pm

This news is the best news I could have ever gotten in my whole life!!!!!!

The GAL report came in the mail today and (drum roll ladies)...HE SAYS, THAT I AM THE FAR BETTER PARENT AND THAT LEAVING MY LITTLE GIRL IN THAT HOUSEHOLD WOULD BE DETRIMENTAL TO HER EMOTIONAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH!!!!!!!!! He says, that the other children (my step children) would be by far the Worst influence on a 6 year old. He is RECOMMENDING that, SOUL CUSTODY of my daughter be given to me and no more overnights with dad until he gets his life and those of his kids under control...

I am doing the happy dance like you wouldn't believe!!! My STBX had me doubting myself through this whole thing (as usual). But there is a GOD that saw to it that my daughter's best interest was seen! I am soooooooooooo Happy!!!!!

It's like a life time of stress has been lifted off of my shoulders. The body aches, the heartaches, the doubt, the fog is finally gone!!!! This man was finally exposed for the real person that he is and I wasn't the one who exposed him! He dug his own grave...HA!HA!HA!

You know the most comical part of this is, HE was the one that requested a GAL be assigned to our case and it came back to BITE HIM IN THE A$$!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SU%KS to be him come the contempt of court hearing April 11! I wonder what he will tell the Judge now...

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 4:29am
yeah for you! yeah for the GAL people who see what's right! dancing right alongside you!!!
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Registered: 03-14-2005
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 6:16am
Wow!! Congrats:)
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 4:52pm
That's great news..... I'll pick you up in the Karma van for dinner! ;-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 12:43pm

That is great news!!! congratulation with all my heart, I am very happy for you. I am sure you are celebrating with your little one, take her out to a movie!!!

a hug to both.

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Registered: 03-20-2005
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 10:50pm
I am so happy for you! I only hope that the same will happen for me. Let me ask you: what is the criteria for receiving sole custody of the kids? I know that my husband is sick in the head (as is his whole family) but how do I get myself and the kids away from him in a legal manner? I wish to G-D there was a real way to expose this situation where the real truth would come out. What can I say, listen my husband is a passive-aggressive sicko who uses manipulation and sick mind games to get his way? That he says and does things that are totally inappropriate near the kids? (Like when the kids do something that needs to be corrected, he"ll do the same thing that they are doing instead of educating them). I don't know what to do. I am planning to go to the Women's Center in my area so they can give me some ideas. How do you let a Family Court know that although it is not outright abuse, it is a father who doesn't know how to act around his kids? He is also starting to be very sarcastic to our older daughter. The only emotions he knows are anger, and revenge (if that is an emotion.) He is a person who is cruel and vicious. Most likely he will do and say inappropriate things after the divorce. I don't know what to do. Are things like this taken into account in the Family Court? Help. I truly feel that once I finish learning, the only choice I will have will be to take the kids and go. I don't want my kids exposed to him. And even if we don't leave, how much will I need to be exposed to him once we divorce? I know that he will use sick and twisted ways to get to me, like not bringing them back in time, etc. How will I be able to deal with that forever? If I was dealing with a relatively healthy person, I wouldn't mind so much, but I cannot say that the kids will continue to have a relationship with him and I will be happy. I truly feel it will be detrimental to them. What can I do? Sorry to reply this way on your happy post, but I felt so happy for you when I read your post (G-D works in mysterious ways) because I know EXACTLY how you feel. Any help would be appreciated.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 12:06am

Dear Smiley,

You mean I'm not the only one who has been faced with this dilemma?

The only advice I can give you, is to TELL THE TRUTH!!! Follow your instinct and tell your atty. absolutely everything that happens/happened with your H. If your H is anything like mine, he will expose himself just by APPEARING to be perfect!!! It is a very painful time for all of us, but your husband will dig his own grave to say the least!

You say that your husband says and does inappropriate things, what does he do? How old are your children? Are they old enough to voice what they have seen? My 6 yo told the GAL that "my dad used to beat up on my mom all the time". I didn't think she had seen anything, but she had. Now she is the one who told on Dad. The GAL was NOT impressed with my H or his living arrangements. It seems that "Dad" came across just a little TOO PERFECT for the GAL to believe anything that my H said.

Sweetie, take heart...you will come out being the better person for it. I will NOT tell you not to worry, as I know, that is a feat lost. Your life, and that of your children, is what you make of it. Continue doing what you have always done for the sake of your children. DO NOT, change anything, because children adapt better when their schedules are not interrupted. Children learn what they are taught.

If I can be of any help to you, or you just need a friend, let me know. I am and always will be, a bleeding heart for those of us that have been used and abused and whose children have suffered because of stupidity.

HUGE HUGS and keep your chin up. No use getting rug burns too!!! LOL!

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Registered: 03-06-2005
Sun, 04-03-2005 - 8:23am
Excellent! Good for you!