The best revenge...

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The best revenge...
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Wed, 06-14-2006 - 6:20pm

Is LOOKING GOOD AND LIVING WELL! Especially the looking good part. After dropping 280lbs of dead weight (the ex), I've lost an additional 70 of my own and I'm fitting into the same size jeans I wore in high school (not that I was super skinny or anything but still, it's an acomplishment). He's been throwing his new GF in my face for weeks, they got engaged this past weekend, and the last time I saw them, they deliberatly made out at my DD's little league game while I sat behind them. Anyway, my DD gets out of the car tonight and while her dad was in ear-shot she says "OMG MOM! You look SO THIN!". Meanwhile, his new GF is about 70lbs heavier than I am, sitting there rolling her eyes at me.

I know it's petty but he spent 10 years trying to make me feel like the lowest peice of crap on the earth. Now that I'm getting fit, I just want him to roll in it. As my favorite comic would say, "Suck it, baby!"

Cheers to all of us that manage to pull ourselves (and our asses) up after being beat down!

laura

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Wed, 06-14-2006 - 10:47pm

Good for you, Laura!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 9:36am

Laura,

I think that's great. And your absolutely right. The best revenge is looking good and living well. Im trying to do the same thing right now, loose weight. Ive always struggled with my weight and self esteem. I mean when we met I was heavy so its not like I balloned up (lol) after we got together. So he knew what he was getting into from the get go. But I know he knows how much I wanted to be smaller and with all the things Ive accomplished since we broke up thats the one thing Im still struggling with. Well Ive got news for him, that is the one goal I plan to keep if it kills me lol. That I know will kill him. He's so bitter right now its not even funny and he has a skinny, young gf.

I thinks he's sees that Im surviving without him and he never thought I'd be able to do it. So hugs to us. We rock. Keep going girl.

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 1:47pm
Congratulations on the weightloss! If you don't mind me asking, how did you do it? I've got about 120# to lose and it seems to be firmly attached.
I am proud of you taking charge of your life. Hugs,Brenda


Edited 6/15/2006 1:48 pm ET by mebrenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 3:05pm
Laura, congrats on your weight loss! I know how hard it is to lose. What a fantastic accomplishment. I'll bet you're feeling good about yourself, and you should. So not only will you look great, you'll be healthier...all around a positive thing. Plus, you get to tell your ex to suck it....lol!




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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 6:33pm
WoO HoO on your weight lose!!!! That is also one way I am going to try and get back at stbx. Plus, I will feel better and be happier, which I'm sure he doesn't want either!
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Thu, 06-15-2006 - 6:54pm

Tell me about it! The best revenge is living well! :) I'm proving it too. Here's a picture of me the day after we got engaged (in 2000, I was 20):
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v244/JDarling/Disneyland%202000/003_3.jpg
Here's one of me taken just a couple of weeks ago - DEAD BEAT FREE! -
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v244/JDarling/New%20Life%202006/Random009.jpg

It's become a running joke w/ my friends that I'm supposed to be devasted about my husband meeting me at the door w/ his bags packed and divorce papers.
I laugh and say "I'm working on it."
- J.

- J. Darling

Singehttp://img.photobucket.com/albums/v244/JDarling/Headshots/Picture001.jpgr, Songwriter, Author for Celebr

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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 12:54am

You are absolutely right! Congratulations on the both weight lost. She didn't just have the 70lbs you lost but she also got the 280lb dead weight. The best revenge is living well.

I am still healing from my husband leaving me for an ex-friend of mine but I'm think I'm going to start seeing what he did as a blessing. Now I can finally treat myself the way I should be treated. This phase in our lives are definitely the time that we should use to get to know ourselves and learned to love ourselves the way we should.

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Wed, 06-28-2006 - 8:16am
First off, congrats to all who have managed to come this far...I rarely hear about men who have forced women to go for a divorce ( betrayal, abuse, etc ) end up being happy, it's usually the other way around....we suffer so much emotionally during this trial but then emerge so much better off...living well is truly the best revenge. As for weight loss, my best friend is losing by taking a script called Meridian, my DD is losing by using something called Lipo -6 ( I think that's what it's called. ) At any rate, if you prefer to do it the " natural way" start out by limiting your portions, so you do not feel deprived of what you like ( after all when we diet, what the hell do we think about all day? what we can't have, right?) drink more water...and do something. What goes in must come out..any little thing to start..as soon as you see a drop in weight, the desire to do more will come. But just be healthy, if you want to go on a strict diet, make sure you have the essential vitamins and minerals. Most of us are not used to taking care of ourselves first,, kids, husbands, and others seem to come first...now it's time to jump up higher on the totem pole...do something nice for yourself, a loved one, a friend, and a stranger everyday and watch how your world becomes more enriched....you can only live well if you're living...Love, C.
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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:47am

Right there .... well ... almost! lol with you!


I gained 70# in the 8 yrs with him .... & was called every fat name in the book by him the past few years.

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Thu, 06-29-2006 - 5:55am

Bren, if it helps you - Ive lost almost 50#.

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