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Beware of rant
| Fri, 10-21-2005 - 4:18pm |
...so my stbx will not take care of the insurance, cause its like in both our names. So I go to take care of it. I sign all the papers and all the stuff....he doesn't sign a DAMN thing! So now I either have to pay for his insurance....or I have to get NEW insurance. This means they will look at my driving record and of coarse I have a speeding ticket which means it will cost me MORE because he wouldn't sign any papers!!!
I am so upset. He will get to carry on the policy as if I wasn't even on it and his record will not be checked out...so he looks great and I have to PAY..one again!!
Why is it when you try to do the right steps to move on that HIS irresponsiblity seems to get him ahead and I get stuck paying the BILL! Can someone please tell me this, cause I think I'm going to cry and I just had four days without this steer stool, and it was okay but now its like I am so mad!!
I am so upset. He will get to carry on the policy as if I wasn't even on it and his record will not be checked out...so he looks great and I have to PAY..one again!!
Why is it when you try to do the right steps to move on that HIS irresponsiblity seems to get him ahead and I get stuck paying the BILL! Can someone please tell me this, cause I think I'm going to cry and I just had four days without this steer stool, and it was okay but now its like I am so mad!!

Are you sure YOU have to change insurance policies? When my stbx moved out he too didn't do a thing to get the ball rolling
If he didn't sign anything to be on the policy in the first place.... then why can't you just drop him now?
Also.... your premium might be cheaper just by not having him on your policy (since men generally pay higher premiums and it's likely that you're paying something on your car just because he might drive it sometimes).
Hang in there!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
"they will look at my driving record and of coarse I have a speeding ticket which means it will cost me MORE because he wouldn't sign any papers!"
Well you can look at it that way if you choose. But it kind of puts you in a victim position. That position is not good for you, it will just reinforce pain and helplessness.
The real reason that your insurance will go up is:
Because you were speeding.
When you realize that these things are within YOUR control, then you can feel more powerful, and will be more likely to work towards improving your own life yourself. Don't sit waiting for someone else to fix your life. It is in your hands. Good luck.
You're right. I just have to learn to control what I need to control. I don't want to play the part of the victim but sometimes it just seems overwelming and I just am weak. I guess I'm going to need more help then a support group. This emotional up and down has me coming and going too! Thanks for the advice.