Beware of rant

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Beware of rant
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Fri, 10-21-2005 - 4:18pm
...so my stbx will not take care of the insurance, cause its like in both our names. So I go to take care of it. I sign all the papers and all the stuff....he doesn't sign a DAMN thing! So now I either have to pay for his insurance....or I have to get NEW insurance. This means they will look at my driving record and of coarse I have a speeding ticket which means it will cost me MORE because he wouldn't sign any papers!!!
I am so upset. He will get to carry on the policy as if I wasn't even on it and his record will not be checked out...so he looks great and I have to PAY..one again!!
Why is it when you try to do the right steps to move on that HIS irresponsiblity seems to get him ahead and I get stuck paying the BILL! Can someone please tell me this, cause I think I'm going to cry and I just had four days without this steer stool, and it was okay but now its like I am so mad!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 10-22-2005 - 9:39am

Are you sure YOU have to change insurance policies? When my stbx moved out he too didn't do a thing to get the ball rolling

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 10:07am

If he didn't sign anything to be on the policy in the first place.... then why can't you just drop him now?


Also.... your premium might be cheaper just by not having him on your policy (since men generally pay higher premiums and it's likely that you're paying something on your car just because he might drive it sometimes).


Hang in there!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 10-11-2005
Mon, 10-24-2005 - 11:39am
...so today I talk to insurance and say "Why can't I just drop him from the policy, why does there have to be anything I have to do?" Well now its too late cause they looked at my record, saw the ticket and said it will be going up and that they can't just ignore it now. Plus since he was the one the brought me over to them, I will have to change the policy! So once again I get stuck with paying. I just feel, he cheated on me, he gambled everything away, he irresponsible and its all okay for him to do that. Like no one gets mad at him, like he's getting away with it. Life is not fair, and I don't think I can handle this today. I just feel too sad now.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-25-2005 - 5:13pm

"they will look at my driving record and of coarse I have a speeding ticket which means it will cost me MORE because he wouldn't sign any papers!"

Well you can look at it that way if you choose. But it kind of puts you in a victim position. That position is not good for you, it will just reinforce pain and helplessness.

The real reason that your insurance will go up is:

Because you were speeding.

When you realize that these things are within YOUR control, then you can feel more powerful, and will be more likely to work towards improving your own life yourself. Don't sit waiting for someone else to fix your life. It is in your hands. Good luck.

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 6:44am
just take his name off the policy. When we went through the D I just matter of factly stated that he needed to get his vehicles off the policy or I would. Banks have a way of taking your car if you don't have insurance so he got signed up right away.
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Registered: 10-11-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 12:57pm
rosemile...
You're right. I just have to learn to control what I need to control. I don't want to play the part of the victim but sometimes it just seems overwelming and I just am weak. I guess I'm going to need more help then a support group. This emotional up and down has me coming and going too! Thanks for the advice.