Big Blowup - they didnt go to the party!
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| Mon, 06-13-2005 - 11:18am |
I know I shouldnt be happy about this but I couldnt help it. First impressions really do make a difference and this gf of my ex's screwed herself royally.
Saturday - my ex and his little tart were supposed to take my son to a b-day party. He said he would pick him up at 3p.m. Well he called close to and said he would be late cuold he come at 4p.m I said fine. So at that time I thought I should let him know not to bring her up on my floor or even in my building ( I dont want her knowing my apt. #) under no circumstances at all. I didnt even want her knowing my address but since he has had her w/ him when dropping off the baby before that was too late to be avoided. He said he could respect that.
Then he calls me back again saying he wont be able to get there until like 5:30 - 6:00p.m. and now im pissed b/c he's screwing up my plans big time. We got into it a bit and he's like what direction are you going in, maybe you can bring him to me, I said you must be crazy. You wanted to pick him up so you need to get here ASAP so I can do what I need to do, he did apologize a few times. Finally at 6:30 he comes all in a rush, didnt even want me to kiss the baby goodbye, saying he's rushing. I told him you need to calm down stop rushing and make sure he's safe. He said sorry again and left.
About 10min later he calls me again, saying he cant handle this and he's gonna bring him back. I told him NO, I have plans. He told gf to wait for him at McDonalds ( which is a block in a half from my house) she got mad and left him! He didnt go to the party, just went home with the baby.
Can you imagine. He told me she got mad b/c she wanted to wait in my lobby. Mind you I bring my son downstairs to the lobby to make the exchange. She has no business in my bldg period. I dont want her knowing my apt #. What the heck is up with her. Did she think me and him would have a quick roll in the hay before he left or something. So now they arent speaking. Aw what a shame. What is this chick trying to prove?

-sang
Tell me about it. It just feels good to know that she's cathching some crap from him too. Since it always seems like he treats her like Gold. I guess she really does feel threatened. She also has another baby's mother to be "worried" about. She obviously doesnt trust him and w/o trust it wont last.
It's weird thought b/c i know im still kinda jealous although it makes no sense to be. But I kinda hope it doesnt work out and I know that's wrong on my part. Maybe it's b/c this is his 2nd relationship since we broke up and I havent had the first one yet. Either way I dont see it lasting. She really has no trust and I cant blame her either. If she only knew what had happened 3 months ago.
wow, sounds like my situation. It took about a year or so to get it so she wasn't coming to my house, walking in the front door or standing on the porch during the dropping off or picking up of the kids.
I think it's their insecurity and curiousity. It sucks, it's like they use our ex's against us because that is the ONLY thing they have that we don't.
Oh well, chalk it up to being an experience and a realization... a realization that NO MATTER WHAT, YOU are better than she is....
Hugs,
Angelena
gotcha.
I mean I can say I do understand her perspective but I'd never let her know it ofcourse. I do know that she doesnt "have him 100%" emotionally and she probably can feel it. When he dropped the baby off on Sunday he came in for a bit b/c the elevator was out and he had to carry him and stroller up 6 flights. When he was leaving, he ran his hand down my arm and just looked at me for a bit, sighed and said he needs to think about things. He called when he got home, we talked for a bit. He apologized saying he knows he doesnt always handle things the right way I said the same. He said he's just so stressed out w/ everything going on. We said goodbye. 1st time in a long time no arguing. Says he would call me today. Sure enough this morning, he called asking me about his resume. So she's in a helluva position b/c he's still confused and it's like he's pulled in at least two different directions.
But I have to be very careful. Because this is what happens with him. When there is no tension between us, he calls often to "talk" sometimes about nothing. And I cant handle that, not no where near strong enough for that yet. So he's confused.