Big Step for Me

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Registered: 05-30-2003
Big Step for Me
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Wed, 03-02-2005 - 3:38pm

Well I haven't been around in the last few days because things are moving faster then I ever thought or imagined.

Over the weekend I went house hunting just to see what was out there, well I put an offer in on an old house, but one that could make a really nice home for me and the kids, with some TLC. After negotiating yesterday my offer was accepted, WOW. Then I secured a commitment letter for a mortgage in, get this MY NAME (no one else's just mine). We have a secure offer on our house and should be signing a P & S on that one by the 11th.

I am still a little tense because the 4 way meeting will be on the 8th. I am feeling more grounded and have started an outline of what I want to be discussed at the 4 way, I will fax it to my atty on Friday. I think I have come up with a happy middle that H will agree to. Hopefully we will have this 4 way and be able to resolve everything and move forward.

The tension is becoming so bad in the house and DD is acting out like I have never seen that the more I think about it I want this done ASAP. I will not stick it out until June when the kids are done with school, the sooner we all move on with our lives the better. I am still trying to come to grips with all of the things happening but I am getting some of my balance back. I know that in spite of everything H has done and continues to do I still love him and the disrespect he has shown me and my kids is uncalled for. I have to be a firm believer in karma and he will get what is his when the time is right.

So I am hanging on and lurking when I can, even if I don't respond everyone here has been so helpful so thanks a lot.

DAF

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Registered: 02-11-2005
In reply to: daf101a
Wed, 03-02-2005 - 7:28pm

Wow! It sounds like things are moving right along for you. Kudos. I know what you mean about the tension. I am still living with my STBX, and tensions are very high. We just sold the house, but have a 45 day escrow. So by mid April we should be able to go our separate ways. I am hoping we will be able to cope and live peacefully together until then. Hugs to you.

Amber

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: daf101a
Thu, 03-03-2005 - 10:21am

Yea for you!..... please, please, please either hold off closing until after the divorce is final, or be sure that you get your STBX to sign a "Quit Claim Deed" for your new house so that he can't ever have any claim to it, specifically when you sell it down the road.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 05-30-2003
In reply to: daf101a
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 12:37pm

Thanks for the responses.

Amber, good luck I hope everything works out for you and April is almost here, so hang in there.

Karen, I have thought about what you said about joint property. I plan on speaking to my attorney about this very issue as he knows I put an offer on the house. I also have the option of my boss and a friend of mine who rehab properties of purchasing the property and then selling it to me when everything is final. I didn't ask them to do this, they have offered. I have printed out your response so I know exactly what to ask my attorney, so thanks for the advice.

I am feeling stronger everyday and more in control.

DAF

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Registered: 10-28-2004
In reply to: daf101a
Fri, 03-04-2005 - 11:38pm
I really don't believe in Karma - but things happen for a reason. I hope both you and your STBX find peace and move on, and trust you will both have learned lessons regarding truth and fidelity.