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| Wed, 03-02-2005 - 3:38pm |
Well I haven't been around in the last few days because things are moving faster then I ever thought or imagined.
Over the weekend I went house hunting just to see what was out there, well I put an offer in on an old house, but one that could make a really nice home for me and the kids, with some TLC. After negotiating yesterday my offer was accepted, WOW. Then I secured a commitment letter for a mortgage in, get this MY NAME (no one else's just mine). We have a secure offer on our house and should be signing a P & S on that one by the 11th.
I am still a little tense because the 4 way meeting will be on the 8th. I am feeling more grounded and have started an outline of what I want to be discussed at the 4 way, I will fax it to my atty on Friday. I think I have come up with a happy middle that H will agree to. Hopefully we will have this 4 way and be able to resolve everything and move forward.
The tension is becoming so bad in the house and DD is acting out like I have never seen that the more I think about it I want this done ASAP. I will not stick it out until June when the kids are done with school, the sooner we all move on with our lives the better. I am still trying to come to grips with all of the things happening but I am getting some of my balance back. I know that in spite of everything H has done and continues to do I still love him and the disrespect he has shown me and my kids is uncalled for. I have to be a firm believer in karma and he will get what is his when the time is right.
So I am hanging on and lurking when I can, even if I don't respond everyone here has been so helpful so thanks a lot.
DAF

Wow! It sounds like things are moving right along for you. Kudos. I know what you mean about the tension. I am still living with my STBX, and tensions are very high. We just sold the house, but have a 45 day escrow. So by mid April we should be able to go our separate ways. I am hoping we will be able to cope and live peacefully together until then. Hugs to you.
Amber
Yea for you!..... please, please, please either hold off closing until after the divorce is final, or be sure that you get your STBX to sign a "Quit Claim Deed" for your new house so that he can't ever have any claim to it, specifically when you sell it down the road.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Thanks for the responses.
Amber, good luck I hope everything works out for you and April is almost here, so hang in there.
Karen, I have thought about what you said about joint property. I plan on speaking to my attorney about this very issue as he knows I put an offer on the house. I also have the option of my boss and a friend of mine who rehab properties of purchasing the property and then selling it to me when everything is final. I didn't ask them to do this, they have offered. I have printed out your response so I know exactly what to ask my attorney, so thanks for the advice.
I am feeling stronger everyday and more in control.
DAF