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| Thu, 12-15-2005 - 1:28pm |
I'm trying not to get angry or to cry right now. My attorney (a friend/aquaintence of mine) called several weeks ago to ask me if I could go to court on 12/16 to finally get divorced. I was thrilled to take the date and have had my heart set on it every since. Well since then I've had some strange behavior from stbx and I've left her a few messages asking her how to deal with it. While I've left those messages, I've also asked what time I'm in court on the 16th because if it's late in the day I need to set up a sitter for the kids. No response. Finally on Monday I called her office again and got her secretary directly who was very surprised that I didn't have a court time yet. She said she'd call Julie and ask her what time and call me right back. Never heard from her. Now I'm getting mad and trying not to because she's doing this for free, but honestly I just want it DONE. I'm getting very close to the one year mark of when we decided to split and she told me from the beginning it would be a matter of weeks. So today - and keep in mind that I'm supposed to be going to court TOMORROW - I called her office and she's in court and I talk to her secretary again. She is shocked that I still don't know what time. She has me hold while she calls Julie. Apparently she couldn't get me in on Friday 12/16. She's going to set up another date/time and get back to me. Things are going to get sticky from here though. My kids leave town on 12/20 and then I leave on the 21st to return on the 27 and the kids return on the 28th. As much as I want to be divorced, I still will want some time with my kids when they get back from their dad's, so I dont' want to have someone watch them while I spend a morning/day in court. I'm going to have to wait until they go back to school which is going to be in 2006. I don't want this to mess my taxes up and I really hoped I would have this done before the next year. There is a tiny time slot that I can do on the 28th because the kids don't fly in until 7:30pm. If she can get me in early I can get this over with and get the kids in the evening. I'm sorry I'm venting I just can't believe the way this is going!
Melanie

(((((((((HUGE HUGS))))))))))))))))))
Waiting sucks, and being on the bottom of the priority list is no fun.
Unfortunately you get what you pay for.
It would definitely be nice to have it done before the end of the year, but I wouldn't count on it. Try not to let this get you down. Just enjoy the holidays and handle it when you can.
My divorce we went to a mediator, started negotiations in the month of August and were at court by December and our divorce was final a month later in January and Absolute by April. So it can be done quickly but honestly I don't think you are a priority to this lawyer, mainly because she's just doing it as a favor for a friend, her paying clients get first priority. But I can see how it can be extremely frustrating at your end of things.
I agree! The most frustrating part of it is that while I may very well have hired her anyway, she never asked who I was going to use as my attorney. Soon after I decided to divorce stbx she and another friend of mine and I bumped into each other at a party our daughters were going to and she said, "I'm going to handle it for you and you won't be paying.". I told her I didn't think she could do that, but she insisted. She's really sweet and fun, but I wish I were a priority. I've even asked her if there is anything I could do from my end to make things go more quickly and she said no. I filled out the paperwork nearly a year ago and we wrote up the final papers in July! This is getting ridculous.
Melanie
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I still have not heard from her. Sigh... I actually had a crummy day yesterday, just moped around the house not feeling like doing anything. It wasn't until later that night that I figured out why I felt that way. I'm not someone who usually gets depressed and I guess I'm unfamiliar with the feeling. So I went to bed early with the kids and slept in and now we're listening to Christmas music, baking and making candy. I'm feeling much better. Hopefully I'll have an official court date soon.
Mel
I hope so!
I'm glad that you had fun making cookies and candy.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~