Boy am I in trouble.........

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-14-2007
Boy am I in trouble.........
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Fri, 06-08-2007 - 2:01pm

My dh and I have been married for 15 yrs. the latter part of this month.

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Registered: 04-02-2007
Fri, 06-08-2007 - 4:16pm

Laura,

First let me say I'm so sorry to hear of how tough things are for you right now.

No one can tell you what to do - you must decide for yourself. I strongly urge you to get back to counselling only so you can discover what you need to do. Keep in mind that sometimes we feel guilty about making decisions that appear selfish but a mom who is healthy in spirit is one of the greatest gifts you can give your children.

My experience was that no matter how many times I went to marriage counselling, my STBX would go for a short time then quit because he had more important things to do. The last counsellor was on the blunt side, he told me my h would adjust his behaviors for short periods of time and then revert. I knew then it was up to me to decide if I wanted to spend my life with that man or not. It actually took another 4 years but I finally got up the nerve to leave.

It has been very difficult. But it has been so worth it. My health had suffered while I was married and now - without that stress - I'm getting better.

Hang in there. We are all pulling for you.

Hugs!!

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Registered: 01-14-2007
Sat, 06-09-2007 - 11:19pm

Thanks so much for your post, Movinon.