Brand new to ivillage and have a questio

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Registered: 11-12-2006
Brand new to ivillage and have a questio
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Sun, 11-12-2006 - 4:19pm

I have been separated from my H for 6 weeks now and we have been to see a divorce lawyer. My question to you is when do I take my wedding ring off? This relationship is going nowhere but divorce, I just dont seem to know when to take the ring off as this will raise questions at work and whatnot....how did you deal with co-workers when you divorced or separated? I dont want sympathy and questions...which is the main reason I havent taken it off yet......

Thanks!

Joy

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Registered: 11-12-2006
Sun, 11-12-2006 - 10:42pm

Thanks for all the responses! I am going to begin looking for a different ring to wear on that hand to wean myself off of the wedding ring... :0) I know that I will know when the timing is right and I believe that it will be very soon or I wouldn't be worrying about it, ya know?

Hugs,

Joy

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 8:40am

I just gradually stopped wearing mine.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 01-29-2005
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 10:46am

My ring came off long ago. I was trying to tell my ex (not ex at the time) that I really needed his help with small things around the house. he proceeded to tell me how he never wanted this house (house was inherited). That I was the one who wanted the house. Just like I was the one who wanted the second child. I could care less about the house comment, but when he said that about my daughter it was like a knife in the heart. I knew right then I was done and the ring came off that day.

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 11:16am
You don't have to tell anyONE anyTHING about your personal life. I told 3 of my close, trusted friends at work and my boss, and that's all! They gossipped around me, but no one would ever confirm or deny any rumours.... it was hilarious.

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Mon, 11-13-2006 - 3:20pm

considering the ring was a sign of "our love and fidelity" i took mine off when i was in the middle of my A. I didn't deserve to wear it, and my stbx certainly did everything in his power to help me fall out of love with him. (alcoholic, out of work, sleeping on the couch, etc....)

my sister was visiting last weekend and put my engagement ring on her hand. she asked what i was going to do with it, to which i responded "sell it". at the risk of quoting dear charolette on sex and the city, "i loved what the ring represented, not the ring itself."

its a symbol of a promise. my promise has been broken.

what

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