Breaking Commitment to God...

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Breaking Commitment to God...
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Wed, 05-23-2007 - 3:03pm
Does anyone have a problem breaking their commitment to God? I think I care more about that than hurting my husband and family. Any other Christians struggling with this?

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Sun, 06-24-2007 - 10:12pm

Momriogirl,


I have to ask for clarification of your situation. Early in your post you say your husband loves you and is still attracted to you. Yet you say you’re choices are limited to either divorce which you believe is wrong or staying in a “loveless, sexless marriage.” Which is it?


Also, I wondered if your husband is also a Christian. Have you tried to talk to him about the state of your marriage?


CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 02-11-2007
Mon, 06-25-2007 - 9:42pm

I think this really got to me a little while after our sepperation. I still really haven't come to terms with it.

the thing is, despite the fact that I was the one who made the decision to get a divorce, my husband was the one who decided to do all of the things that made our marriage impossible, in retrospect dangerous and unsalvageable.

I get through this by reminding myself that I did everything I knew how to do in order to preserve my marriage. And also remind myself that God wants the best for all of us, and like it or not, sometimes the best thing to do is walk away.

When the time comes for me to face God I have alot of questions to ask.

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Registered: 05-22-2007
Tue, 06-26-2007 - 10:16pm

Yes, my husband is a Christian and I have talked to him extensively about our options. Since my original post, we've decided to divorce...although I know he is still holding onto the hope that I will want him back when I'm sitting alone somewhere in my empty apartment.

Although he wants me to stay desperately, he doesn't want me to stay out of duty or obligation...but because I love him and WANT to stay. I hate to hurt him like this; it's been very difficult over the past few months.

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 8:05am

Mom,


You still didn't answer my question. You say your husband still finds you attractive and loves you. Yet you say if you stay you stay in a "loveless, sexless" marriage. Which is it? And, when did you "quit" this marriage?


CL-Wisdomtooth2020

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Wed, 06-27-2007 - 10:27am

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