Brenda

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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 9:22pm

Hey there...

I saw that you posted under roll call and I was just wondering how you were doing... I've been lurking a bunch and reading where I can, but its just been crazy since about November... you doing OK?

*hugs*

Julie

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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 9:33pm
Julie, I am doing very well. Finally finding the strength to move on. It has taken two years to get to this point, but I know now that I am going to make it. Thanks for asking! How are you doing? Is Joey getting along better? I will keep you both in my prayers. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 9:52pm

Oh you're welcome Brenda... I know its tough and I know you've been doing all you can for a while... but you have to do what is right for you when it is right for you... I hope that you're finding peace in 2007...

As for Joey we've had a few bumps all ready in 2007 (he literally broke my glasses on Sunday... a lot of migraine medicine, an optomotrist visit and $400 later, I am getting used to contacts again and have glasses on order...), but is two for two on good days at school so far this year....

Yesterday he got 10/11 possible, with the only one he didn't get was for rest time, when he started out talking and then fell asleep (and slept through the next two sections)... and today he got 11/14, with a few scattered, he needed lots of reminders for x or y or help transitioning to z.

The teacher sent yesterday's report home, so we could put it on the fridge to help him remember what a good day at school looks and feels like--we've been talking about how a good day at school is more fun because you get to do more neat things...

Joey is working on a big goal of 10 days of 10 or higher behavior to get a trip to Build A Bear--he only got 4 all of December and has two more, so we're getting closer... Even though Sunday was rough, I'm really glad that he's had these two wonderful days and I'm hoping for more, of course!

Keep us posted!

Julie

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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 10:24pm

Julie, sorry for butting in here, but I wanted to say that's great that Joey is doing better. I love the Build-A-Bear idea! And 10 days is attainable but not so easy you go broke buying bears. :-)

Hope 2007 is good for you and Joey both.

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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 11:12pm

No need to apologize at all Gwen... Its good to see you! Yeah, the Build A Bear thing is something that I came up with because they have Pooh Bear at BAB and Joey loves Pooh and wants one... so at first it started with 5 days of 13 or 14 (out of 14), which after a week, I realized was so unattainable it wasn't funny, so then I changed it to 10 days of 10 or higher... this started the beginning of December and he managed to get 4 that month. We put a sticker on the calendar so he can keep track... but you're right... its enough that I shouldn't go broke either...

You're so sweet to think of us... I hope that 2007 is filled with blessings for you!

*hugs*

Julie

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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 11:55pm

Thanks, Julie! I'm really looking forward to what this year has to offer. I'm starting school next week, my son will be switching schools in the fall which will hopefully be good for him, and I've been doing better with not getting so worked up over ex and his gf. I was looking over old threads from this time last year and I'm so happy to be through that part of it. You guys have been wonderful and patient with me and I appreciate it so much.

Since this was originally about Brenda, here's a great thread she started that it sounds like you missed.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlsmartdivor&msg=18790.1&x=y

(((HUGS))) for you and Brenda both!

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 7:02am

Brenda,

I have to admit that I just read the thread that you posted as an update--I had missed it--not quite sure how, but I did--Thanks Gwen for pointing it out.

I just wanted to let you know how proud I am of you for getting to this place... I know you really didn't want to come here initially, but it sounds like you've taken a step in the direction that you need to take. The update post sounded more optimistic than most in a long time and I'm proud of you.

There may be tough times here and there, but they are going to be, for the most part, easier than the times you've been through before. I just can't tell you how happy reading your update post has made me... Keep us posted on things... and I hope that 2007 is full of peace for you and yours!

*hugs*

Julie

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 9:44pm
Hey Julie, Thanks for the good wishes. I am glad to hear Joey is having some good days. Just when I thought things had turned around life has to remind me it is in charge. I had a really bad day today. First one in a long time. I was reprimanded at work, threatened with being fired. My good mood has lead to some cockiness and my mouth has gotten into trouble once again. Pray for me, I don't truely know what i will do if I lose my job and I am so scared.
Hugs, Brenda


Edited 1/10/2007 9:50 pm ET by mebrenda

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 11:10pm

Brenda, you have made some great progress recently. Do not let this bring you back down. Go into work and turn this around. It had to have been a brief episode of whatever you did/said so it seems if you go in tomorrow with a good attitude and try to smooth it over that you can fix this. Maybe it'll take a little time to undo it, but you will be okay one way or the other.

You had said you were sitting in church and felt a calmness come over you, and you knew you would be okay. Trust that feeling. Even if the worst happens and you do lose your job, you will survive. Look at what you've been through over the last two years. You lost a whole lot more than a job, and you have been able to pull yourself up and make a good life for yourself and your kids.

It will be okay. Here's some good luck at work hugs! (((((HUGS))))) :-)

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Wed, 01-10-2007 - 11:19pm
Thanks Gwen! Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Thu, 01-11-2007 - 3:14pm

Hey Brenda...

Hang in there sweetie. Even when you've gotten to this better place, there will still be some rough days... but the thing is, like Gwen mentioned, you have gotten to the place where you felt the calmness and peace to know it will be all right and it will be. To tell you the truth, I don't know how I managed to get through work (with all my crying) and not get reprimanded, but I amde it through... like Gwen said, get back in there, be more conscious of what you're saying and repair what needs to be repaired... and then start growing...

And if worse comes to worse and you do lose this job, it could open another window of opportunity that you're not even yet aware of... Thinking of you and wishing you peace and a better day today!

Keep us posted!

*hugs*

Julie