Broaching the dating subject with dd ...
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Broaching the dating subject with dd ...
| Wed, 11-08-2006 - 4:17pm |
Where is the "EeeeeK!" icon? lol
I met with dd's counselor yesterday b/c I MUST let her know i am dating. If she ever heard it from someone else ... she would lose so much trust in me.


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It went fairly easy with my kids. The man I am seeing now is someone they had met and liked before having any idea that there may be more there than just a friendship.
I sat down and told them that he and I wanted to be able to date and they were like "Oh, okay". I thought they must be hiding how they really feel, but even after attempting to talk to them on a several occasions, I gave up. The last time I tried, I asked my son (11 yrs. old) if he was sure that he didn't have a problem with Dave or any concerns, he just gave me a "look" and replied "NO, Mom, do YOU?"
I think as long as Avery sees that your dating doesn't impact time spent together she'll adjust. Only time will show her that you aren't abandoning her for a man. She'll be okay, Rebecca, don't worry. You're a good attentive mother and she'll see you have her best interest at heart.
(Okay, so I had no good advice but wanted to offer you support and good wishes in getting over your next hurdle) :-)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Well, it's pretty clear that she's not going to be comfortable with it... and the way for her to get comfortable with it is for you to talk, talk, talk about it... point out people who are "dating" that you see out and about (even married people date!).
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Rebecca, I'm counting on you to let us know how this goes with Averey! I still haven't told Rosie and Gracie that I'm dating, and I'm pretty sure that this relationship is a keeper!
Why haven't I told them??? Maybe because their father snowed them about NW. "She's my best friend" (he met her 2 weeks before the girls met her. best friend, my butt) Maybe because he married NW right after Rosie asked him not to do it so soon? On paper, they sound like stupid reasons, but I've listened to Rosie (Much like Averey) saying "I'm not ready for you to date" and "It would be weird having a stepmother AND a mother who dates".
Even though they KNOW my sweetie (who really was/is my best friend and has been for almost 10 years) and they like him ALOT, I'm just not ready to fess up and have them mad at me.
I love Karen's suggestions! (Karen, you and I think alike!!) I've been telling the girls about dating (and kissing). It's my opinion that if XH hadn't screwed things up, I'd be ready to let the girls know.
Good luck!!! and please, let us know how Averey reacts!
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
I know am the odd one
:-)
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Yes - that is what I intend to do - & have said it to her in passing "Thats what adults who arent married do ... they date".
As a matter of fact, JUST this morning, she brought something up. She ALWAYS begs for a new baby. I have started insinuating that I would need
Ask her why you can't have new friend that you can love and do
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
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