butterfly71676

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 9:28am
I just wanted to see how the old cl-butterfly71676 is doing. Haven't seen you around in a while, and hope that all is OK.

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 9:40am
Hey.... great question!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 10:30am

Hi there :) Thank you for thinking of me!

I am doing ok. I am working full time ( the retail thing didn't work out so I have a "real" job now...lol ) , in school full time, busy with kids and a whole lot of other stuff .... it's been hard.

My mother passed away 1/15 and I have been trying to deal with that as well. I lost my other board because I just couldn't devote the time to it. Dealing with my moms death was very hard. Still is.....

Anyway, that's really it :)

I have a new blog that I will put up in my profile if you want to check in :)

Hugs to all and please let me know how you all are doing :) I miss you guys!!!

Angelena

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 10:42am

Hey Karen, thank you for the email today. I very rarely get time to surf the boards anymore.... ***sniff sniff

I hope all is well with you... what have you been up to?

How is everyone else???? I am anxious to catch up!

Hugs to all

Angelena

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 10:54am

Hey... I've been devoting more time that I should to being "mom"... darn teachers!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 11:27am
I am so sorry about your mom. That must be so difficult on you. You sound so busy! Hang in there!
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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 1:22pm
hugs angelena.... its very hard to lose a parent, and i think its hardest when its our moms... i lost my mom 19 years ago and i still miss her so much...
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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 7:54pm

THanks Karen....

Moms death was very hard on me, but, I am happy to say that her and I did mend our problems before she died. She spent a few months in Hospice and suddenly her health just turned. It was all so fast. I talked to her on Friday before school she sounded great and the last thing I said to her was I love you. Sunday morning I had a call from the nurses telling me that she was not doing well. I rushed there and spent some time with her. I had to leave so XH and OW could visit with her and so I could go get my kids from XH and the sitter. Later that day while arranging for another sitter I called to check in on her before we went there and she was declining very fast. We headed there and I was able to be with her when she passed. My boyfriend and I were there, I said goodbye and kissed her. My aunt, grandmother and another aunt ( all my fathers family ) were also there and left just as we got there. I believe mom waited until I was there.

It's been very hard. Mom had her body donated to the University of Buffalo for research. I admire that in her. She wanted to help people. Hopefully they will be able to study and learn more about Breast Cancer because of it. I also took up a collection and was able to raise 500.00 for Hospice Foundation of WNY in her name, ultimately giving us a brick with engraving to be placed in the garden at the Hospice. Since her body was donated there will be no grave. I think it's perfect for her since she loved Hospice and the people/nurses loved her, too.

Anyway, before I ramble. It has been hard. VERY hard. I know she is in a better place, free of pain and watching over us all.

Thanks for thinking of my guys :)

Hugs to all.

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 7:56pm

Thank you :) It has been hard. I told the story in response to Karen's post but I know that she is in a better place now. I do find comfort in that now, maybe not a month ago, but now I do. She isn't in pain anymore and that makes me happy.

Thank you for your kind words and condolences.

Hugs to you....

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 7:57pm

Yes it is so hard. You know the feelings I am going through. I see or hear something that instantly reminds me. Or I will be sitting here and saying "I think I will call mom... " then realizing that I can't.... It's very hard. Full of ups and downs.

I find comfort in knowing that she is in a better place. She isn't in pain anymore. I am very thankful for that.

Hugs to you and I am sorry for your loss.

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Fri, 02-17-2006 - 8:40pm
Angelena, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mother. It was nice that you got to be there at the end. I think the brick in the garden is a lovely way to remember her. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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