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Can anyone relate to what I'm feeling?
| Sun, 03-02-2008 - 11:04am |
I've been posting on this board and the DV board for several years now, which has helped save my sanity.

Zinnia,
Hi. Yes, losing our home is part of the grieving process in divorce. Your maritial home housed more than furniture - it housed your hopes, dreams, and the reality of your daily life, i.e. raising your children, gardening, etc.
Like a death, divorce requires us to let go of things that were once a part of our lives. Having dreams about those things is not unusual. It's how we process the loss. Since your divorce was final just a year ago, don't be too hard on yourself for mourning the loss of your house. Being separated is different than being divorced. Divorce is final; separation has a glimmer of hope there will be reunion, so we don't let go fully of everything associated with the marriage.
Grieve your house. Then, do things to make your new house YOUR home. Plant flower boxes or planters for a patio or balcony, hang garden-themed photos or create a space in your house that feels like a garden. Do whatever it is you need to make your house feel like home. Soon, you'll feel less lost without the physical space of your old home. It will always be part of your memories, but youll find you miss it less, less often.
Good luck!
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Some commonly misspelled words on this board:
You're = contraction of "you are"; You're going away?
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
Hi Zinnia,
I'm on the opposite of the coin here.
Thanks for your kinds words of support and encouragement.