Can he do this

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2004
Can he do this
5
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 5:51pm

I live in New York. Im hoping and assuming there is some kind of law that it is illegal for an ex to refuse giving an address and phone number when there are children involved and a visitation order. Do any of you know.

This is the newest stunt my ex is trying to pull. A social worker had to visit both homes and he has in his file he wants his address to be confidential. He has also disconnected his cell phone number and claims he has no home phone. My son is only three and there is no way in heck that he's gonna for visits and I have no idea where his "dad" lives or not even a contact number in case of emergency.

Do you guys have any info on this topic.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2004
In reply to: luvred2004
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 6:05pm

My decree in Texas has specific language that the parties have to inform each other of new contact info., address, jobs, phones, etc.

Seems very necessary to me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: luvred2004
Wed, 01-18-2006 - 10:31pm

Check you wording in your agreement or call your attorney to check on this.... in most cases, each parent has to inform the other of where the children will be and how to contact each other.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-23-2005
In reply to: luvred2004
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 9:17am

Hi there

I've delt with NY courts before with ex and his first wife. They were pretty adiment about both parents knowing contact info if the child was in the other custody. If your ex is saying that he does not want any contact with your child then I wouldn't care, However if he is wanting to share custody with you then the courts would frown upon his request.

I could see if he was the one with full custody and you were proven to be a health threat to your child but this does not sound like the case to me. I know when we went through this with exs ex, they appointed a GAL for the kids. Not sure if you need one here. I think you are safe in that the courts try to protect the children and are not going to make it easy for a parent to have the chance to up and run with the child.

Not only would they frown on this request but it would also put a cloud of suspicion on him as well. I'm sure they will question him as to his motive for this action. Until it's all worked out I would be leary about visitation.

Hope this helps.

K

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-11-2004
In reply to: luvred2004
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 9:30am

Hi all,

Thanks for all of your replies. I will be meeting with my lawyer before the next court date Feb. 9th to go over everything. They have appointed a lawyer for the baby as well. Iam very leary about visitation and that's why my son wont be doing any visits with him until this is all worked out. It makes me wonder what games he is up to ya know. He is so contradictory. He says he wants nothing to do with me or my family but yet he wants "joint custody". My family doesnt try to be in his life. If he wants nothing to do with me how does he expect to co-parent and have joint custody? That means we have to be able to "deal with each other" in a civil way regarding our son. He's ridiculous. I dont think he really knows what he wants. He's still running the bull story about ME keeping the baby from him. He told the lawyer for the judge that he couldnt get him on Christmas b/c I was trying to force him to spend time with me and my family and Im mad he has a girlfriend. Then tells her I have a boyfriend and my boyfriend sees the baby more than he does. He even called me a money grubbing b#%ch in front of the lady. So Im hoping this will have some merit. Geez. I hope she told the judge of his behavior and just hope the judge doesnt buy into his lies.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: luvred2004
Thu, 01-19-2006 - 11:27am
Good luck.... keep us updated on how things go.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~