Can he make me leave??
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| Mon, 02-19-2007 - 6:54pm |
My husband and i are informally seperated, meaning he is staying with friends and I am still at our house with the 3 kids. Well, a couple of times, he has said to me "I want you out." Well, we rent our house and both of our names are on the lease. I can't pay the rent and utilities, etc. on just my salary, so can he make me leave?? Nothing has been done legally, he paid the necessary bills (rent, utilities, give me money for kids' food) but doesn't pay credit cards or car payments. I just started new job today, but the car payments are 2 and 3 months behind. My husband says if either cars get repoed, there is no chance for us, we are over, but refuses to help me catch them up. I am waiting for my half of the tax refund to catch them up, but we have not had them done yet because he found this great tax person who can maximize our refund but we have had to cancel our appointment twice due to weather and money.
I don't want to take legal action, because I know that is going to be the real end of us, but we are not making any progress and I don't know how to change that.

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Are you getting a divorce or just messing up your life? If you don't get legal help very soon you may find that you are in deeper trouble. Get an attorney asap. Your "husband" can not force you out of your home. He is responsible for household bills which I see that he pays. You are responsible for one half of any debt assuming that your name is on the credit cards and auto loans. You do not want to take legal action because you say "that would be the end of us". Are you hoping for a reconciliation? You need to sit down and think. Consider your options and get some legal advice. Good luck.
Deb
I am really afraid that if I speak to an attorney, it will be the point of no return. I don't know if I am willing to accept that. But on the other hand, he told me I need to fix things and make this marriage work. How can this work if only one partner does all the work?? He went and stayed with friends, but I never asked him to, although he said I gave clear indications. He said he wants me to go stay with my sister (30 min. away), get up every monday to come home at 4:00 so he can go to work, then go to work myself at 7:30 when his mom gets there to watch the kids. I told him he was crazy!!
Dan,
Nope. One person can't "fix" a marriage by themselves. He's copping out and trying to make it all your fault for the state of your marriage. HE is part of the problem AND the solution!
Read your rental lease for the terms you agreed to when you took the apartment. Again, we're not lawyers here, but I would bet your husband can't order you to leave the property. In this case, since it's a rental property, only the landlord can "throw you out" and that would only be for failure to pay rent, destruction of property, etc.
I also encourage you to seek the advice of a lawyer. Just because you ask questions doesn't mean a divorce is the outcome. You NEED TO KNOW your rights and responsibilities. Don't guess. (Like Deb says the outcome could be worse if you operate in ignorance.)
Have you tried marriage counseling? If not, I encourage you to go - even if he won't go with you. You need
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
He is crazy!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~