can I make him leave?

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Registered: 09-12-2005
can I make him leave?
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Sat, 06-17-2006 - 8:45pm
I live in Pa and have been married for 4 years. I do love him, but when the weekends come around so does the drinker that takes over his body. I thought after years and years he would grow up and since we just had a baby I thought that he would realize that it is time to be a man. Well I was wrong, he got a DUI a few months ago and is on probation, even considering that he still drinks!! Well anyway, what i want to know is...Is there anyway that i can get him to move out? We bought the house since we have been married. He has already told me several times that if i file for divorce that he will not sign for the first 2 years and then he will want blood work on our daughter (I know..how was i so lucky to find this gem). I want him out! I honestly hate him on most days, is my only way to contact a lawyer? And if so what will they do about it?
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Registered: 05-19-2006
Sat, 06-17-2006 - 9:23pm

I don't know the answer, but most lawyers will give you a free consultation.

You just had a baby......perhaps you should consider talking w/ your H about getting into rehab. I don't know all the details, but for your family, maybe he will work at quitting.

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 12:34am

Get a lawyer who will file for temporary orders.

Susan

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Sun, 06-18-2006 - 1:44am
I'm so sorry you're going through this. My lovely, gem of a husband refused to leave after I found he was cheating (I guess his tiny, little mind thought we would just carry on as usual) but I had a brother who threatened to fly 1500 miles and "kick his sorry
a** out of the house" if he didn't leave. That did the trick and now I have a lawyer filing a "debt continuance" that will require him to continue to pay the mortgage/bills until we can get a permanent child support/alimony order. I came out ahead on that but I'm in California. I'm not sure what your rights are in PA. Definitely have a free consultation with a lawyer.
Good luck to you,
Theresa

 

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 8:18am

hugs... sorry you are going thru this. i am glad that you are seeking to provide you and your baby with a clean and stable environment. its goign to be a difficult journey but hopefully things will work out for you.

i agree tht you should contact a lawyer

please keep us posted

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Registered: 07-08-2004
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 2:23pm

A divorce can go one without the cooperation of one of the parties. Yes, if one person is uncooperative it can drag on for quite a while, but there really is no way for one party to stop a divorce. So I'm not sure where he's getting this two-year idea. Also, if he's questioning the paternity of your child, he'll likely have to pay for the test.


Definitely see a lawyer for a consultation so you can get your specific questions answered. Good luck!




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Registered: 01-22-2006
Sun, 06-18-2006 - 11:46pm

Yeah, I thought the two year thing was odd too.


You don't need him to sign anything to get him out, to get support etc.

Susan

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Mon, 06-19-2006 - 7:49am

Unfortunately in PA, there is a 2 year waiting period if the other party won't agree to the divorce. My bf had to deal with this (among other tricks by stbx) because she wouldn't sign. In his case, it has been 6 years, but thats the other tricks in play. My parents also went through this too. One refused to sign, so it took 2 years to go through. So, someone can hold it up for 2 years in PA by not signing.

Autumn

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 9:32am

That's too bad (and pretty stupid) but you CAN get temporary orders.

Susan

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Registered: 11-25-2005
Mon, 06-19-2006 - 8:54pm
In the state of PA a child born to a married couple is considered the product (excuse the technical term for your new baby!) of both husband and wife. End of story. Unless a paternity test proves otherwise.