Can someone Help me figure out how I feel about my break up?!

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Registered: 11-07-2011
Can someone Help me figure out how I feel about my break up?!
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Mon, 11-07-2011 - 2:31am

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Registered: 02-13-2009
His parent's are controlling and he probably is, too. He sounds manipulative and dishonest, too. He broke it off several times before, so maybe you feel like you will get together again, as before.
Are you sure you don't desire him back? You loved him with all you had. It sounds like you could be denying your grief, because it may be too painful to feel. He doesn't sound like someone you should be involved with, but if he pops up again asking you back, it wouldn't surprise me. He may be treating you like a yo-yo. I think you should be prepared to stand firm and not take him back.
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Registered: 12-30-2005
Believe it or not you've answered your own question when you say "I can't honestly say that I miss him/want him back, but I can't say I don't either." In your gut there is doubt about him. Your gut won't tell you a lie.

Living together with parents is HARD and will most times build resentments with one or more parties in the house. The fact that his dad hates you will continue to cause turmoil between you and his son and make you feel uncomfortable every time you are around him. I've been down a similar road and found it was better to just let go and move on.

You cry because you are lonely; this will pass. You deserve to be happy with someone who WANTS a relationship with you and whose parents both like you.

Hugs.