Can't function

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Registered: 01-23-2012
Can't function
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 1:35pm
I cannot get out of bed. I cry all the time. I am so confused. He was a good and loving husband while we were married. The drug that I know he is doing is pot. Most say that is not a big deal. I know when he is on that, he does not care about anything. I am not sure if he is doing other types of drugs or not. He is fully fuctioning though, working out now, working at his job, and going to EMT school. So I look like the crazy one. I don't know how he is able to do all of this, and I cannot function or get out of bed. I lost my home, my animals, he left me with a vechile that is not safe to drive. I experienced bad chest pain last night, as I have a bad heart. I begged his friend and cousin, the only two contacts to get a hold of him, and explained I needed to to ER having chest pain. He never contacted me to help me. I don't know how he could be like this towards me. Noone calls me, I feel so alone in world and very unloved. The pain so deep that I cannot get out of bed and I feel like a nervous wreck all the time. I feel like my life is over and nothing good is going to happen for me. I am really scared about my life. I feel so alone.
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Registered: 09-21-2011
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 1:42pm

Yes, you can, that's why you posted on the "I will survive" board. Not the "I am a doormat and deserve to be mistreated" board.

Now get angry! How dare he steal your stuff and cause you to lose your home and pets???? He is a drug addict and a loser. So what if right now he has his act together? It won't last, and he will take advantage of another woman. But it won;t be you.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 01-25-2012 - 1:52pm
Don't you have anyone you can call? Your mom or another relative?
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Registered: 01-29-2012
Mon, 01-30-2012 - 10:43am

Your story is similar to mine. I got married in April 2011 and found out 4 months later that my husband was smoking hash on daily basis. I have always been severely against drugs and he knew that. When I confronted him, he told me not to make an issue out of it and that he would quit whenever he feels like. After a long fight, I gave in. But the truth is, I spent many days crying about the drug issue while he was at work and I pretended to be fine in front of him for the sake of our relationship.