Car got reposessed
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| Fri, 06-20-2008 - 12:35pm |
In our separation agreement, my ex is supposed to pay me the child support and he was supposed to pay my car payment until I got a job. He lost his job on purpose (the one where he made almost $20 an hour)for driving his work van home when he was already told not to. He got another job, but then lost it because he called in. Needless to say, he hasn't made a car payment since March. The re-po people came yesterday and took the car. I called my ex about it and he basically said he didn't care and sorry about my luck. That was my only vehicle. Does anyone know of any charitable organizations that will either sell me a van or donate a van to me. I have five children. I can't just go buy a car, the ex has ruined my credit when the houses were forclosed on and another van was repossessed. I checked out carangel.com, but it's not what I thought.
Thanks a lot.

Glam,
Hi. I suggest you check with Goodwill Industries, Salvation Army, and with other charitable organizations in the area who may accept donated cars that they fix and give to those in need.
I would also notify you attorney of his failure to meet the separation agreement terms. I have no idea if this will get you anywhere but it would be good to notify the lawyer.
CL-Wisdomtooth2020
I have checked with Salvation Army, Helping Hands, Charity Cars, and even the kids school, nada. I have notified the lawyer. I dont' have any money to file a motion. I'm not trying to sound like "pity me", I am able to work, I just graduated from college for medical transcription. There are no jobs out there. I've put in over 20 apps to different companies. No one is hiring because I have no experience, but I can't get experience without a job, yada, yada, yada. I'll check with Goodwill to see if they have anything that can help me.
Thanks everyone!
I'm sorry Glam, but as Dr. Phil says, "you need to get real".
You're not yet divorced but already forcing your kids to live with another man in your house?
Whoa, whoa, whoa!! My priorities ARE my kids, that's why I got out of the situation I was in.
I've been raising my five kids, homeschooled them, and taken responsibility for them for the past 12 years. The past twelve months I've been in college trying to better my life and that of my kids. In my marriage, I had no security whatsoever, never even knew if I would HAVE a house to live in because my husband wouldn't pay the bills. Throughout the past twelve years, I've had just about every at-home job known to man, from mystery calls to becoming a professional labor assistant. My current man DOES help support me and my kids. He had a job, but they closed the store he was working at, so he is also looking for work. My ex agreed in our separation agreement to pay child support and my car payment until I got a job. I'm not "milking" this just so I don't have to pay a car payment. I agreed that my ex pay me less than the suggested schedule so he could have some sort of life when many exwives want to stick it to their husbands. I did this as to not ensue a war with him for the sake of the kids. My ex got fired from his job of 13 years because he drove his work van home without permission, after already getting a warning from his boss. He got another job, then got fired because he called in. Until you've walked a mile in my shoes and experienced the sacrifices and neglect I have, you can't sit there and judge me. I haven't "forced" my kids to accept this man. They've known him, and I'VE known him for the past four years. SO as far as me "having the time to get a relationship with a man", he was my best friend and was around quite a bit even before I got divorced. My ex, on the other hand, has had 3 different girlfriends in the past five months. I'm finally happy, my kids are happy, they can play outside without having to wade through garbage and crap, they have their own room, and they like their school.
My ex won't face reality, he has so many train wrecks coming his way and I'm tired of the one being hit by them. Somehow he never has to feel the consequences of his actions or lack thereof, yet I have to pay for them. In my field of Medical Transcription, I have put in just about 20 resumes to different companies. Apparently you have to have 2-10 years experience in this field to actually GET a job. I'm not too good to get a job somewhere else, but I went to college for this so I'm still trying to find a job in this field before I just give up.
I don't mind truth, I'm not in denial here. I can see how this would LOOK to some of you, but I have moved on with my life and making it better. When I was with my ex, I was on depression and anxiety meds. Now I can wake up in the morning and not be afraid of the phone or who is going to come to the door. The car bein taken was more of the "ex fall-out" so to speak. I'm hardworking and dedicated to everything I do. I graduated with honors as a single mom of five kids, WHILE going through a divorce.
I'm not looking for attention or pity on this board, just information and help. Apparently from the responses I've gotten, this is an army that shoots it's wounded.
Until you've walked a mile in my shoes and experienced the sacrifices and neglect I have, you can't sit there and judge me.
I agree with you.
I can see how this would LOOK to some of you, but I have moved on with my life and making it better. When I was with my ex, I was on depression and anxiety meds. Now I can wake up in the morning and not be afraid of the phone or who is going to come to the door.
I understand that, too! I had an ex that was VERY much like yours - he was financially and emotionally abusive. I don't think many people can understand how difficult it is to live with the fallout of someone who behaves in such a way. I worked full-time plus overtime to clean up his financial messes, yet I had to endure calls from bill collectors, no money for groceries, etc. And this man made a VERY good salary. I can even relate to the garbage issues!
Also, I can relate to your situation because people HAMMERED me about getting remarried six months after the divorce was final (the divorce process took about a year). Well, we've been remarried for almost two years and are very happy.
Good luck to you. I wish I had some additional suggestions about the car. The only thing I can think of is filing the contempt motion yourself. I had to do that with my ex because I couldn't afford a lawyer at the time. Since you're unemployed, they'll probably waive any filing fees.