"Celebrate" Ex's Bday
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|Fri, 08-22-2014 - 10:22am|
I am currently separated and on the way to divorce with my husband and tomorrow is his 40th birthday. He's totally miserable and not in a good place because of where our marriage is headed. I don't know what his plans are but I know him...he'd rather just not do anything and feel sorry for himself. At the same time, I feel totally horrible that he's going to having his birthday and we're not even going to see each other. I think I feel worse because it's a "big" birthday.
I wasn't planning on doing anything with him (like dinner or something) because I know it would get his hopes up. I was thinking to maybe stop there in the morning with our dog, just for an hour or 2 and bring coffee. Just to acknowledge his birtdhay and break up the day. I know I'm not responsible for his choices but putting that aside, I still feel horrible about everything.
Do you think it would be a bad idea to do the morning coffee for an hour? Or should I just stay away? I mean- after all...he HAS been my best friend for the past 10 years. It just feels wrong to not do anything at all.