Child refusing visitation

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Registered: 08-26-2006
Child refusing visitation
Tue, 10-24-2006 - 11:17pm

I'm fighting to have shared parenting plan changed. The children have made it clear to school counselors, family counselor, children's services, GAL and to the psychiatrist preforming our court order evaluation where they want to live. They have even declared it to the Magistrate. We're now waiting for the trail.

I received a call the other night while they were with dad begging me to pick the oldest up. After desperate calls to the GAL, family counselor, and court ordered counselor, the sheriff advised me not to go up and get the kids. He was verbally abusive. I was told he has every right to disipline the children and even they are afraid of him, he is allowed corporal punishment.

My oldest has left several messages for the GAL and she is not returning phone calls. She is aware that the police will show up on Sunday, and is prepared for any consequences. The younger daughter is not prepared for the consequences, and is agreeing to go to dad's.

I need some advice and support.

County beleives in 50/50 regardless of what the kids wishes are.

I'm calling dad tomorrow night to let him know what's going on and am prepared for a 30 minute lecture on how I've brainwashed the kids.

Lawyer has a call and letter in to GAL and ex's attorney.

I need the strength to support daughters decision to stand up for what she wants. I need prayers to help the younger one get through her week. I need the strength and wisdom to be a beacon for my two kids.

Thoughts...advise...prayers???