Child support late again!

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Registered: 01-17-2006
Child support late again!
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Fri, 05-26-2006 - 8:36am

In the interest of keeping things peaceful and I hoped running smoothly I agreed that stbx could pay c/s on a weekly basis deposited directly into my bank account rather than going through the system. It is registered with the court so that if he dosen't pay they can chase him for it, but if that were to happen, it would take months of arrears before anything is accomplished. I've seen this happen many times.

The c/s is supposed to be deposited on Thurs. I checked my account this morning and it's NOT there! This is not the first time he hasn't done it on time, but the other times he was a day or so late. OK, I can appreciate the fact that there may have been a reason for the delay but I need to know. I called and left a message but haven't heard back from him yet which is very typical.

My question is does this happen to anyone else and if so how do you handle it? I really depend on getting that money each week (don't we all) and there are times it seems he does this holding it back for just a few days to show me that he still has "control". I wish I could get through w/o depending on that money so that I could just look at it as a bonus when he does come through on time, but I can't.

What I hate more than anything is the ability he has to still control me.

Trudy

 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 9:32am

Trudy...

Pianoguy firmly believes that "there's strength in numbers!"

Why not keep a running record of the times he has been late in paying child support? Most banks credit payments on the same day, but a few still have 'cut-off times'---which means CS payments won't be acknowledged until the next BUSINESS day. .

If you're finding that the child support payments are consistantly late or delayed...you need to speak to your lawyer or legal advisor.

Pianoguy

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Registered: 06-13-2005
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 9:50am
Take control back. Don't let him pay it when he wants to. Get an income deduction order through the court this way his employer HAS to take the money out first and send it to the disbursement unit for you. You've tried to work with him. He is taking advantage of that. You do have a remedy available to you.
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Fri, 05-26-2006 - 10:44am
I think I would have the DOR handle everything, I know it seems like a pain but it seems more often than not this happens all the time. So I would rather have DOR involved and have wages attached and know I was getting it then to have to be reliant on him.