children and STBX spending time together

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children and STBX spending time together
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 6:14pm
Here it is another Holiday. So life isn't the same anymore since seperation long ago but why does STBX not spend much time w/ His family. I am sure guilt is a big part, his schedule, living several miles away, his children being older. But they are his children what ever age they are. Why would he not plan something some time to be with them a little more. He has a job that allows him leave. Do you think he thinks I would not like it? So long as they are not w/ OW. I admit I need as much support and understanding from them as I can get. In a lot of ways I do not like his influence on them but then they know his weaknesses. I think they should still see him. It all makes me think of other families. When the X moves on w/ his new family. Just how do they balance all that? Who is their priority??
I just needed to vent to someone.
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Fri, 03-25-2005 - 8:03pm

Hugs and Good Luck.

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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 9:42am

It's never easy to understand...... I'm (still) often frustrated with my EX because he doesn't have the same priorities that I have for our children.... but.... I try to keep in perspective that... he's not me.... and if he doesn't take advantage of the opportunities, then it's his loss.


I agree, though.... if the kids want to spend time with him, then let them make the call to see if they can set up something.


And about holidays...... I hate it that we have to share holidays, so I've just sort of adopted an air of extended holidays... and how much fun they can be.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~