childs plea to christmas wish

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Registered: 07-28-2006
childs plea to christmas wish
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Sun, 12-24-2006 - 5:19pm


need advice how to handle this question!

my 9 yr old DD says all she wants for christmas is her dad back home and that the house doesnt get sold so this wont be her last christmas here etc.. She cries to me all the time but wont talk to him about any of this. she keeps a stiff upper lip if you will to him.

I tell her I want to be honest and cant read the future so I don't know what will happen and that alone I can't afford this house (as modest as it is). and the more positive
I stay about this divorce the more ?'s the kids have for me and will not approach him with any ?'s.
I know they are in fear of pushing him away - the scenaio he left mom why wont he leave me comes in to play.

what the kids pick up from him is.....(because I am positive towards him and every thing thats going on with us -per my therapist) is when he is here to watch the kids when i work is as soon as I come home he runs for the door. and says that he has other obligations.

any thought would be welcomed

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Mon, 12-25-2006 - 7:14am

The message to the children should be "Mom and Dad will always love you and be there for you no matter what happens between us."

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