CHRISTMAS PROGRAM

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Registered: 08-03-2006
CHRISTMAS PROGRAM
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Mon, 12-11-2006 - 11:45am
My daughter has her Christmas program at church on Sunday. My ex husband hasn't been able to go to any of the kids events since our separation because he drives truck and his days at home haven't worked with the event schedules. So, he will be here on Sunday and I already feeling like crying because I just know that the emotions are going to run rampid when he comes to the church and is sitting there watching our little girl in her play and we aren't the "family" that sat there last year. I hate all this emotion all the time! It's easier when he's not around, but I also know that with everything that he's missed with kids that he will be so looking forward to being there. It's not that I don't want him there, either. It's just that I don't know if I will be able to keep my emotions in check.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-11-2006 - 7:37pm
I'm sorry that this will be one of those difficult "firsts" that each of us goes through. Perhaps if you sit in the middle towards the front, where you will be less likely to be able to "watch" him, it will make it easier. (((((hugs)))))))





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Registered: 12-21-2004
Tue, 12-12-2006 - 6:15am
Hey Robin, I don't really know what to tell you other than that I am thinking about you...I remember all of the things that my trucker husband has missed and we aren't divorced yet and alof of the things he missed was over all the years we've been married. Trucking is a tough job - especially on the children - they miss out on so much and so does the father. My husband is having communication with me now - he says he loves me and the kids more than anything in the world...I really do believe that he loves us...he said the girl isn't with him anymore..don't know about that..but do know that he is talking more free on the phone - saying things he wouldn't say last week. He says he is going to give us money for Christmas - gosh I hope he is telling the truth. I just wish he would get back to Georgia to fix my son's t.v. - something happened to it with the satellite and he is the only one (without paying someone - and have no money to do that)who can fix it. It is SO HARD for me to sit at work everyday and listen to people talk about what all they've bought for Christmas and how they just "aren't" finished yet - and how rushed they feel...and I'm sitting there trying not to cry - thinking - why don't they realize how they are making me feel. We get out for the Christmas holidays Thursday and don't go back until the 1st of the year...so at least that is one thing I won't have to hear anymore. Take lots of pictures of your daughter!!! These years go by so fast - on Thursday 1/2 of my daughters senior year will be over...
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Tue, 12-12-2006 - 11:04am

gal jasper:

Yes, that is hard. I had my first this Fall at our son's soccer game--and I had to endure it every weekend! It is hard, but one thing that helped me is that I solely focused on my kid--I had so much joy watching him that in the end, I didn't care about the ex or even care to watch him.
I know it's hard. My 6 yr old son just came home this Sunday after his visitation and said "Guess what, daddy has a date tonight" It was horrible hearing that and it made me realize that the things we attend together will get tougher, in that he will eventually start bringing a significant other to these things. But again, just focus on why you are their--for your child.

Good luck

Darcy