Cliches.....

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Cliches.....
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Fri, 12-17-2004 - 8:48pm

Remember all these cliches?


Be careful what you pray for.... you just might get it.


We reap what we sow.


When it rains, it pours.


Every dog has his day.


Well, they're all coming true for me tonight.

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: callalily65
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 10:52am
i'm so sorry to hear this... its always the kids who suffer, isn't it? hugs.....
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Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: callalily65
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 3:52pm
I am sorry to hear about all the turmoil in your girls life. I hope you can all stay strong and get through this.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: callalily65
Sat, 12-18-2004 - 8:51pm

Calla-

You know, I think I even remember you making those predictions. You didn't wish for it, you predicted it. Your girls didn't cause this, they have to live through it. Before you can help them grasp that, maybe you need to take a moment and center yourself on your place in this. You are the stable point in their lives. You cannot be stable if you allow yourself to be emotional about the divorce. The girls' reaction, yes; the divorce, no.

Hugs to you. I haven't been here much for quite a while but I drop in from time to time and I'll keep you in my thoughts.

Hang in there,
vm




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Registered: 09-02-2004
In reply to: callalily65
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 11:03am

I send your family my sympathy and prayers. Are your girls terribly upset about all this? I've read some of your posts and it seems like their living situation with NW wasn't really good for them. Could this actually be a positive change with more of their Dad's undivided attention on them?

I've followed your posts because I'm in a somewhat similar situation. I have JC with my EX who remarried 6 months ago. He just put our old home on the market and moved my girls (14 & 8) into NW's home (it IS nicer and larger). He married after only knowing this woman 5 months and the kids had only met her three times before the wedding. She seems OK for the most part--however, I wonder if she married him out of desperation and a desire for a family--speculation on my part, though. She seems intelligent--I cannot understand WHY she chose HIM--she clearly doesn't know the man I was married to or she would have run for the hills! I have real fears that this marriage will fail also because he's just such an (expletive deleted) to live with. I wonder how long he can keep up his "good guy" false front.

It's so frustrating because it's all beyond our control and we have little we can do to help our kids cope beyond being there to pick up the pieces.

I hope you get some good news on the search for new employment soon. Come January, companies will have new budgets and know where they can hire and when.

Best wishes!
Cupcake

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Registered: 08-17-2001
In reply to: callalily65
Tue, 12-21-2004 - 9:59am

I'm so sorry for your situation, and your daughters!

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 08-17-2001
In reply to: callalily65
Thu, 12-23-2004 - 12:17am

Here's the latest

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: callalily65
Fri, 12-24-2004 - 9:30am

Oh Calla...... and Rosie and Gracie....


This makes me so, so sad..... and what worse timing could they have possibly had.


Ya know..... I'm really glad that you've had the girls in counseling.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: callalily65
Fri, 12-24-2004 - 9:35am

I always read the updates... last.... it seems.


I'm glad that he's getting some help, but I also know that it's still going to be a long road.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2001
In reply to: callalily65
Mon, 12-27-2004 - 3:11pm

First off, Karen, you've been in my thoughts lately and I hope that whatever is going on with your health is resolved, or you at least figure it out.


Second.... Agreed agreed agreed!

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2004
In reply to: callalily65
Mon, 01-10-2005 - 1:19pm

Sorry I haven't read in a while...

You don't sound at all like a cad, what I see is a caring genorous human being.

Your girls are lucky and your EXH is lucky (whether he knows it or not) to have you.

Good luck on your job search and happy fish-parenting in the new year!

Cupcake

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