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| Sun, 11-20-2005 - 7:54am |
Im getting married on December 17, I have been divorced for over 2 years and I still do not have closure. I have tried to get my ex, through email, to help with this but it didnt go as planned. It always starts out Hi how are you and ends up you lousy cheating....i emailed him last night to let him know that Im tired of fighting and that with my marriage and possible move across country I didnt wnat any extra baggage hanging around me. I know he probably wont repsond, so does anyone know how to reach this closure when all the kids cant play nicely in the sandbox?

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your ex is NOT the person who is going to help you get closure - IF you are sure that what you need is closure...
lets say, that its not HIS responsibility at this point - its yours.
i don't know if you have been to therapy after your divorce, but that would be a good place to start. If its bothering you - then you need to deal with it.
Congratulations on your pending neptuals Emmy.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
Wow, very well said.
I, too, have been longing for ex to acknowledge his part in the failure of our marriage. I like what you said about him not having control over your life anymore. I want that too. I'll remember what you wrote here.
Thanks!
thank you for your response. I cant but agree with you. My soon 2b hubby is a patient man and does listen and gives really great advice, but having never gone through a divorce, sometimes he is at a loss for words. Counseling can be expensive, so that is why I am here to get advice from others and by doing that maybe I can find a way to put the past to bed. I mean for the most part I have...but there are a few things that are still hanging out there....
I also posted another message called is this normal on another part of this board, your thoughts would be greatly appricated on that too.
Thanks a bunch
Em
Emmy,
Let me say this.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
Emmy,
First let me just say that you are not going crazy.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
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Yes!
It is truly cause for celebration when you get that "Aha" moment as Oprah calls it. This is not about him. It is about your new love, your new relationship and your new life with a man that in no way resembles the baggage man you got away from.
Peace,
Di
***If you cannot define yourself, your circumstances will.***
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