Co parenting with a compulsive liar!
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Co parenting with a compulsive liar!
| Mon, 11-07-2005 - 1:13am |
I don't think it can be done, personally. My ex is, I have figured out, over the course of 14 1/2 years, a compulsive liar. He is moving back into the state and will be here this Friday! Now, granted he is a compulsive liar, so I will definately have to see that one before I believe it. Supposedly doesn't have a job lined up, supposedly doesn't have an apartment lined up, but is "definately moving back Friday". HUUUUMMM! Let me think this one through. He is either lying about moving back on Friday or he is lying about not quite having an apartment or job lined up. Can't decide which. Should I order the steak or chicken? Considering the fact that my ex is a coward, I will go for the chicken and say that he is lying about not having a job or an apartment lined up. How am I supposed to coparent with this man, and I use the term man very loosely where he is concerned, and trust him with the kids, and their care, and their well being, and him following through on anything regarding them, if I can't even believe him or trust a thing he says about the simplist little things? How do you do it? Do you just roll the dice all the time and pray for that seven or just chuck the dice knowing nothing is going to work out anyway, and you will do most of the work and continually live with frustration? I would really like to know! I do not want to babysit this man. I did it for 12 years and caught him in lie after lie after lie, why should I have to be in that position again when it comes to coparenting. Perhaps I just shouldn't speak to him or have him not speak to me, then when I know his lips aren't moving I will know that we are all safe. Just venting, but I see this as an impossible situation.
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| Mon, 11-07-2005 - 12:12pm |
Do you have a parenting plan in place?
| Mon, 11-07-2005 - 4:49pm |
I have sole custody of the kids. He has visitation. He wouldn't sit down with me and agree on anything before he moved, and once he left the state, I hardly heard from him. Everything I put in place, I did it without him because I could never get him away from his new life long enough. Now he is moving back in state and he is still evasive about important issues. I don't know what steps to take now.
| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 12:24pm |
Do you think sitting down with a mediator to work out a visitation schedule might help? Are either of you willing?
| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 5:23pm |
I would be willing, and in fact I sent him an email and told him to let me know if he wanted something different regarding visitation and he hasn't gotten back to me. It doesn't suprise me, but when he moves back he will complain, I am sure; but he ultimately made no effort to decide on anything even though I gave him plenty of opportunities. He just acts like he doesn't much care one way or the other.
