Communication.....

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Registered: 08-17-2001
Communication.....
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Fri, 07-14-2006 - 4:25pm
Is there anyone out there with shared custody who has limited (snail mail ONLY) contact with their EX? If so, what's the reasoning behind it? I can, of course, understand it if the relationship was abusive, but is there another reason????

~calla~  mom to rosie and gracie

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Fri, 07-14-2006 - 4:43pm
I have joint legal custody and primary physical custody. My xh is supposed to have parenting time from 10am to 6pm EOW and from after work until 8:30 one weeknight. He no longer is exercising his parenting time. He has recently quit working. therefore, he no longer has an email address, which was my preferred mode of contact. He is homeless, but I do have his mother's address. i have a cell phone number for him but he only answers it when he wants to and it does not protect me - he will completely misrepresent phone contacts so I do not like to use the phone. It is really difficult to truly share custody with someone with such limited contact. I don't know why someone would deliberately set it up that way, if that is what your post is saying. To me the most expedient method is email - especially when I have to deliver a lot of info, like team schedules, practice schedules, swim meet information and directions to swim meets. I get a lot of info last minute from coaches etc and certainly about medical issues so snail mail is really not effective.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 07-14-2006 - 10:46pm

What's up Calla?


The last time I sent my EX snail mail.... via registered.... he got IRATE ;-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Registered: 11-22-2001
Sat, 07-15-2006 - 11:15am

Lately, the only contact I have with PS is a monthly email with his expenses on it (thanks Karen!!). I refuse to talk to him on the phone (he's never called anyhow). Soon, we'll be communicating in front of a judge because I'm filing papers on the $50K judgment he owes me PLUS another 15K from expenses/childsupport not paid.

He has not exercised his visitation Since January 11. he's not called, not come here, nothing. I do have sole custody though.....but he had visitation.

If you do anything by snail mail, make sure you send it registered/return receipt so he can't deny he received it....

Good luck with whatever you're going through!

Deb

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 07-15-2006 - 2:01pm

Isn't that just a lovely little tool?


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~