Community leaders-please read...

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Registered: 03-20-2005
Community leaders-please read...
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Mon, 04-18-2005 - 2:32pm
Why oh why were my responses to the poster (ibcyo?) who talks about reconciling with his wife and who stated he was mentally abusive and cruel to her, why were my responses deleted? I am very upset about this. Are responses deleted because they happen to not have been supportive of that particular poster? Do you leave all the responses of steinberg7381 which has nothing but women bashing and take out my responses just because I don't feel sympathetic to a man who was abusive towards his wife? Yes, I did not send "HUGS" to him, because I will not send hugs to a man who was mean to his wife. I very much not appreciate having my responses deleted because maybe my response was to wake the man up to see what he was doing to his wife. I cannot believe you deleted those things while leaving all the verbally abusive things steinberg7381 writes to everyone in his posts. Please respond - I am very hurt by this. I have written my own story on some boards and believe me there were some people who were not supportive as well but their opinion is just as valid as anyone else's as long as it is not abusive. Please respond-this bothers me immensely. As long as I do not verbally abuse others in my post (unlike some people) I believe everyone has a right to speak their mind. Are we not living in a democratic nation?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 2:59pm

Hugs,


iVillage Member
Registered: 04-12-2005
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 3:09pm
Even though 75% of my posts are deleted for being "unsupportive", it doesn't take a genius to see that you were not being supportive at all to lbcyo. It also doesn't take too much of a logical leap to infer that your response was in part based on his gender. Yes, even men deserve support in cases of divorce...
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-12-2005
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 3:12pm

"I'm so sorry you are upset :)

Hugs to you sweetie."

Hey, I'm upset too! Don't I get a hug as well?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 3:17pm

Hi smiley.....


If your posts were removed, you would have received an e mail stating the reason.


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 3:18pm
75% huh? Are you going for some kind of record?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2005
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 3:34pm
Why do you think my response was based on gender? For me, after the poster had stated that he was mean to his wife, then spoke about money coming in, that was the clincher. If it was a female writing it in that way, I would have said the same thing. Men and women are very different. What women consider hurtful and wrong might not seem so extreme to some men and vice versa. The part that I don't understand here is that you sound like an intelligent person. Why don't you use your intelligence to inform us of what you went thru and educate us so we can have a better understanding of one mans' perspective? We might have more of a clue as to why you feel as strongly as you do. Then maybe you"ll get a better perspective of what some women went thru during their divorces as well......
Hope you take this in the right grain.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-06-2005
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 3:41pm

Sure! You can have a hug too.....


I think what is important here is wording in a place where typing is the only way to communicate needs to be extra sensitive, especially when it comes to an extra sensitive subject like this one.


iVillage Member
Registered: 12-29-2004
Mon, 04-18-2005 - 11:27pm

Smiley my dear...some of my posts were deleted too, so don't take it personally! We know that the poster riled us up and we became defensive. This is a support board afterall, and there was some tempers flaring (as was mine). I got defensive because I hurt so bad right now as you are and didn't appreciate the poster's response.

It's OK...we will have to try a little harder not to let it get the best of us...we are good people!

Huge hugs, sweetie!

Melanie

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