Compromise

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Registered: 02-04-2006
Compromise
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Thu, 09-22-2011 - 11:10pm

I need some advice.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:53am

I have a few questions before I can weigh in with my opinion:

1) do you need his permission to move?

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Registered: 02-04-2006
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 5:05pm

To answer your questions Musiclover12,

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Registered: 06-23-2011
Fri, 09-23-2011 - 10:05pm

I too live in a fathers rights state, Florida. My ex sounds just like yours, he was abusive as well, and still continues his bullying. To me, it sounds as if he's still trying to control you. My ex is trying to keep my kids in their current school which puts them on a 1.5 hr bus ride each way. meanwhile, my daughter goes to daycare right next to my job. The schools in my area are within a mile's drive.

My only advice to you, because he sounds difficult like mine is to make sure that you don't ever help him on his days. If he needs you to take your daughter to daycare, make him do it on his days. My ex still relies on me so much, but acts in court like he wants the responsiblity himself. So, now I leave it up to him. I worry about the kids, but once he realizes how much he needs me he will realize it's in the kids best interest to be near thier mom. If not, document everytime that you do anything for him on his days. Bring this to court. If you have a custody order, and your kids were enrolled in their current daycare it's unlikely a judge will let him move them. The judges try to minimize change for the kids. He would have to fight for it, just like you have to for your oldest.

I hate that he says his place is more "homey"