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confession of an abuser
| Thu, 12-21-2006 - 12:48am |
I have been separated from my wife for a year now pending divorce.I had revealed to my counselor that I was getting verbally abusive towards my wife and my children and that I was finding it difficult to maintain myself.Thus for their safety I was removed from the home.I was placed in treatment;of which I still am in,for my abusive and aggressive behahvior.It has been a long struggle for me to come to the realization that I am at fault for the way I have treated my wife and children.
I do not blame my wife for wanting a divorce;we still remain friends,but she wants me to get the help that I need.My group leaders of whom one is a female have requested that I go to my wife and tell her how sorry I am for hurting her and the children.They have told me that I have hurted her emotionally and mentally;that she needs closure in her life.
I realize that I cannot continue on into another relationship until I have dealt with my abusive nature.I cannot bring harm unto another woman and damage her life.The cycle of abuse must end with me.
I also realize that I might not be well liked because of my issues but both my wife and I need support.She needs it to be free and to continue on in her life;I need it also to be free of the abusive cycle.
I do not blame my wife for wanting a divorce;we still remain friends,but she wants me to get the help that I need.My group leaders of whom one is a female have requested that I go to my wife and tell her how sorry I am for hurting her and the children.They have told me that I have hurted her emotionally and mentally;that she needs closure in her life.
I realize that I cannot continue on into another relationship until I have dealt with my abusive nature.I cannot bring harm unto another woman and damage her life.The cycle of abuse must end with me.
I also realize that I might not be well liked because of my issues but both my wife and I need support.She needs it to be free and to continue on in her life;I need it also to be free of the abusive cycle.

I applaud you for getting help. I think it is wonderful. I hope you and your wife find the closure and the support you need.
I'm not going to criticize anyone who acknowledges something they need to work on... and are working on!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~