confession of an abuser

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2006
confession of an abuser
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Thu, 12-21-2006 - 12:48am
I have been separated from my wife for a year now pending divorce.I had revealed to my counselor that I was getting verbally abusive towards my wife and my children and that I was finding it difficult to maintain myself.Thus for their safety I was removed from the home.I was placed in treatment;of which I still am in,for my abusive and aggressive behahvior.It has been a long struggle for me to come to the realization that I am at fault for the way I have treated my wife and children.
I do not blame my wife for wanting a divorce;we still remain friends,but she wants me to get the help that I need.My group leaders of whom one is a female have requested that I go to my wife and tell her how sorry I am for hurting her and the children.They have told me that I have hurted her emotionally and mentally;that she needs closure in her life.
I realize that I cannot continue on into another relationship until I have dealt with my abusive nature.I cannot bring harm unto another woman and damage her life.The cycle of abuse must end with me.
I also realize that I might not be well liked because of my issues but both my wife and I need support.She needs it to be free and to continue on in her life;I need it also to be free of the abusive cycle.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-09-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 10:04am

I applaud you for getting help. I think it is wonderful. I hope you and your wife find the closure and the support you need.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 4:15pm

I'm not going to criticize anyone who acknowledges something they need to work on... and are working on!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~