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|Sun, 04-28-2013 - 7:09pm|
I'm new to the boards.
I'm finding a lot of solice in all of your posts.
I'd like to offer up my story to gain a bit of percpective from others who are going through seperation/divorce.
My estranged husband and I were together for 15 years, married for 4. We've had our issues of course, especially since we were so young when we first got together. So the events that have transpired aren't in a vaccuum. The past year has been packed with confusing, hurtful, and life changing events. We were seperated off and on for 5 months, he came back for 2 weeks with true definition that we would work it out and be together. Then I found out he was cheating and I need time. It was then he decided that we needed to get a divorce. I didn't and still don't.
But, he moved out to LA with his sister about 2 months ago. That felt like a pretty big definate that there would be no chance for us.
At least once a week I get a call from him. He tells me how much and why he misses me. He tells me he wishes it all turned out differently. And all the while he is usually balling. He hasn't sent the paper work for our divorce so I can file out here.
I'm having trouble with all of this because I want to hear from him, I like hearing that he misses me, it gives me so much hope. But it doesn't change the fact that he is across the country and doesn't mention getting back together.
I don't know what direction to head. Is he playing with me to help ease his pain and transition? Or is it worth holding out with hope that he will want this marriage again?