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| Mon, 03-28-2005 - 7:50am |
Hi everyone,
i am pretty new here. I am so confused. My hub and I have been married 5 years ,we have a 2 year old child. We moved accross the U.S to try to find a better lifestyle for our daughter..have her grow up in the country, experience snow..etc. Well our move is killing..killed? our relationship. Fighting,money problems..etc. I am visiting back home soon to try to clear my head and figure things out...been thinking a lot about leaving.
I wonder though because of our daughter is this going to be the right thing to do. I have lost so much respect for my husband and I think he to me as well. I feel we love eachother but not in love any longer, and I can't picture things being back to how they used to. How do you know how to make the right choice. I have made so many wrong decisions the last 2 years, I am so afraid to make yet the biggest mistake.
Thank you for any suggestions or input,

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Could it be that if you both moved back..... still as a married couple..... looked into some counseling (if for nothing else to try to save a parenting relationship)... that things could be different????
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I have not told him that indeed I have made reservations.
I definitely agree with the general "jist" of the advice given by the other ladies.
If you move back, try counceling. If you guys still love each other, there is still hope. Try EVERYTHING you can before leaving the situation. Once you felt you have tried everything... then make your decision.
Good luck and please keep us updated!
Thanks ladies...
but sometimes like yesterday, I get so angry and feel okay now I really know this is it. Sometimes..usually..lately and sadly I just can't stand him!
What if he doesn't like the idea of going back"home"? Am I forced to stay?
a top preschool while I am at work and basically my brother will help me straighten out all the debt we encured.
Yes... it's very likely that a judge would allow a move if you can show that you'd have a good job that will help keep you from risking bankruptcy or more debt.... but, as I said.... please talk to an attorney where you are living now before you make any moves.
Many times moves are "blessed" by the courts for those kinds of reasons (employment), however, if he chooses to stay where he is now, it's quite possible that since you're the one moving away that you'd be responsible for paying half.... if not all... of the transportation costs to get your child to visit dad.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
sometimes distance can make or break a relationship/marriage. I guess it's a risk you have to take. If you truly believe that it will help, go. If there is any doubt..... stay and work on the marriage.
If I were in your shoes. I would make the move with everyone. Try and make him see that this is what is best for your family.... fully disregarding his own feelings for himself ( if he wants to stay for his own ideas ). Your family has to come first.
You are never forced to do anything. You have to do what is right for your family, if he doesn't want to go, then that means you and your child.
Good luck. I wish you the very best in any decision you make.
Hugs,
Angelena
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