Confused

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Confused
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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 5:17pm

I have posted many times on IVILLAGE and this board-just not under this name. A few weeks ago I introduced my husband to IVILLAGE as a outlet (as a stepfather, father and for issues with his ex-wife). The ONLY person he has posted about is me. He tells me all the time how much he loves me, how "in love" he is with me, how happy I make him and then this (this was posted by him on another board).

"I have been married to my present wife for less than one year. It came up today and has in the past about being clean. That means showers. Her daughter hardly ever does and goes days without and is a pig! I lovingly tried to mention to my wife that I would prefer she shower in the evening, as I like to go to bed with my wife smelling nice/clean.To be kind. Womanly odor etc. She does have it after working all day. Physical job or not. . She does shower every day unlike her DD/ but it is always in the AM/. Well I am sorry She stated to me all I do is sit at a desk all day. SO what you sweat!!!!I think any man likes to go to bed with his wife clean! If she feels the need to wake up in the am and shower again do so.
My problem is just this. She insists she never showered in the evening when we met. I remember otherwise. She always did and cuddled up to me CLEAN.! Strictly now I feel because I told her about my ex and I considered that unacceptable. My ex always smelled like a fish! I think she feels so secure now she does no have to. WHAT!!!!! Hello? And I was kind when I mentioned it to her . She got all pissed off! and would not talk to me the rest of the night. FINE be A PIG do not respect your husband! I do have repsect for my spouse .
I even mentioned to her her ex said the same , she told me that now she denies it! Sorry I am the type of guy that showers every evening and in the AM. I am a very clean person! I go to bed to my wife clean! If she feels the need to be pissed at me for being honest and really not looking at what I said in a nice manner than she she has the problem not me. Also it can drive a man away! Not that she bothers with me anyway. i am starting to feel she does not care. And guess what?? I am a guy that cares alot about my wife! HELLO wake up!"

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: topazgirl2006
Fri, 06-23-2006 - 3:38am
I remember reading that. All of the responses were not exactly giving him support in his bashing. I can't believe that he would do that to you!!! He *knew* you would see it, right? What was he thinking???? He needs to get real and talk about real things, not just how much he loves you. I am so very, very sorry that this happened to you in return for trying to do something positive for him and for others.

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Registered: 07-08-2004
In reply to: topazgirl2006
Sat, 06-24-2006 - 8:16am
Not only is his post unkind and beyond inconsiderate, it strikes me as a bit strange. It sounds like he has some issues himself. Requiring someone to shower twice a day is a tad obsessive.




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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: topazgirl2006
Sun, 06-25-2006 - 7:38am
Have you talked with your dh to find out what is up with this? I can imagine that this was very hurtful and for me, would really interfere in my ability to be intimate with him. I hope you are able to get this sorted out.