Confused about next steps

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Registered: 02-13-2012
Confused about next steps
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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 7:16pm
Ive been married for 8 years and Have a small child. For the last two, things have mot been great. My career took off and my husband feels im a good mom but dont have my priorities straight as a wife. Hea been supportive but not happy either. He is a very complacent and passive person and getting worse. I have to make every major decision. He has no social life and builds everythong around me and our child. Because of that i feel suffocated and guilty when i go out with friends or back to work. It is hard to find anything to talk about. Lately, hes quick tempered. Yelling at our child and me in public. Made things worse between us. After returning from my business trip i told him i wanted to separate and i would move to the other room. He was against it but i did hea been on his best not yelling etc but doesnt go anywhere and acts like all is fine. Tried talking twice and he blames me for all and say im selfish. Just dont know what to do next. Not sure i want this marriage anymore. No common ground, no attraction etc but i want us to be te best parents we can be as we both love our child....confused - maybe i am just selfish
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Mon, 02-13-2012 - 8:48pm

When kids are involved, it is very difficult to balance homelife and your career.

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Tue, 02-14-2012 - 11:48am

Hi,

My first question is always: Have you gone to marriage counseling?

I ask for two reasons: 1)His willingness or UNwillingness to go will tell you whether he's serious about taking responsibility for his share of the issues. 2)If you divorce you'll be better prepared to parent

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Wed, 02-15-2012 - 9:39am

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Thu, 02-16-2012 - 2:31pm

It would be nice if you would not post on every person's message to buy this book, which I assume you wrote & are trying to sell.