Coping with libido

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Registered: 07-14-2005
Coping with libido
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 7:33am

My divorce came through in November and since then I have been attempting to put together my new single life. Throughout the stress of the marriage coming apart sex was not high on my agenda at all, but now that I am free again my libido seems to have taken on a life of its own. I find myself wrestling with fantasies about just about every halfway decent male I come across, and I find it more and more difficult to leave myself alone. Just before Christmas I had a short and very inappropriate relationship with a man which I feel really bad about. I want to know whether this is the experience of other women following divorce and how they might have handled it.

Kate

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 9:58am

I don't really have any advice, but just wanted you to know that you're not alone. You're libido seems to be where I see mine being in a couple months. Right now I've been very careful not to get into a situation where I could do anything that I would regret later. Eg. going out with groups of friends rather than dates; meeting at public places, etc. Building a fun but safe single life is new and kind of scary for me. STBX and I had been together since I was 17.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-17-2006 - 3:09pm

Kate.... don't be so hard on yourself!!!


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~