Counseling

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Registered: 05-24-2005
Counseling
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Fri, 03-09-2012 - 8:18am

So, there's so much to my situation I won't even bother, but my main question today is this; does everyone feel as though we need to pay someone to talk to about our problems?

I've had counselors before, as a child I was burnt in a house fire, had a counselor, my mother got divorced, had a counselor, my wife cheated on me, had a counselor.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: dadfor6
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 9:58am

Hi dadfor6,

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Registered: 11-28-1999
In reply to: dadfor6
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 12:12pm

If you don't think you need it, you probably don't.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
In reply to: dadfor6
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 1:07pm

I didnt want to get divorced and I was stuck and I took my vows very seriously.. Only thing my ex has mental issues and so I started therapy.. My therapist told me to leave and get divorced because ex would never fix himself nor help himself and his issues.. I am not happy being divorced but I am

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Registered: 09-21-2011
In reply to: dadfor6
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 2:45pm

I found marriage coiunseling to be a

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Registered: 02-23-2012
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 6:03am
I tried to "go it alone" after my d-day for three months. My daughter that is a RN saw me and advised me to see someone...I am so glad I listened to her. Seeing what I am REALLY saying through my psychologist has helped me face what I have been denying for many, many years!!! Dadfor6 I am glad that you are able to help yourself just by writing it out or sharing with others...I think that I lost myself in this long marriage with a very controlling spouse so I needed help finding ME again. Still lots of work ahead but I am getting there one day at a time.
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Registered: 05-24-2005
In reply to: dadfor6
Mon, 03-12-2012 - 9:05am

Thanks for replies everyone.

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Registered: 02-23-2012
In reply to: dadfor6
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 6:16am
My three children are adults now...but I guess they are grieving the loss too...so I found out I can't really confide in them. I have read so many books, I just joined a DivorceCare group but I think the one-on-one with my psychologist helps me the most. It is so very hard to start over after "almost" 39 years of marriage especially now that I am discovering he was NOT who I thought he was and my marriage was not either...WHY didn't I see this? Any way I have lots of issues to work through.
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Registered: 02-23-2012
In reply to: dadfor6
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 6:54am
Sorry Dadfor6...I didn't mean to make the above post only about me! It truly shows your inner strength to share your bed knowing there is an OC in the picture! I wish you and your children the BEST!
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Registered: 05-24-2005
In reply to: dadfor6
Fri, 03-16-2012 - 7:59am

I have been going out of my way to not call my "wife" the dirty trash that she is to my (nearly) grown kids.