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| Tue, 04-04-2006 - 10:05am |
Court ordered mediation
Tomorrow is my court ordered mediation.
My husband made a settlement offer last week. He wants 17k a year in alimony and 4/5 of our savings. We are married 14 years, no kids.
I think his offer is crap.
His lawyer wrote that because I made alot more money than him I have to pay him alimony to keep him in his accustomed lifestlye.
He makes 37k I make 100k.
He used to make 250k before he got fired 4 years ago. Then he spent 3 years and 11months drinking 24/7 and not working.
My life sucked. I left him last may 05.
His lawyer said I abandoned him. More crap. She should live with a crazy abusive alcoholic and see how long she could survive it.
Anyways, just venting and asking for prayers

HUGS and positive vibes to you! I hope the mediation goes well. I don't know what state you're in, but I know very few people that are actually awarded alimony for more than a very short-term basis. My STBX makes a lot more than I do, and I have no plans to ask him for alimony. Let us know how it goes!
What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Thanks very much for the support
My lawyer says no alimony and 50/50 on our savings.
Then later he said alcoholism is a disease etc. I told him I know a great deal about alcoholism and if I pay 17k a year my husband will quit the job he was forced to take 1/3/06 and return to 24/7 drinking.
What a crock of crap
I will update you after court tomorrow
Do you have the tax returns from 4 years ago that show what his income was??????
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
What a waste of time. I sat in the court hallway with my $325 hour attorney for 3 hours.
But the mediation team strongly recommends against alimony and insists on a 50/50 split.
now we go back to ping pong with the attorneys and another court ordered mediation in 2 weeks.
The mediation team (family law attorneys at the court) say there is a lot of case law that does NOT support alimony in this case. They say that my husband is underemployed (I told my lawyer it is a miracle he is working at all) and also with the assets we have he can live a secure lifestyle comparable to his marriage lifestyle.
I very much appreciate the support and the ESH.
I agree that he's underemployed... and that, my dear, is not your "problem".... however, the more information that you can get as to why he was fired and his past income (employment, education and experience) records, the better off you'll be!
Good luck... and keep us updated on the progress.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~