Court today. Freaking out.

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Court today. Freaking out.
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 11:16am

Have a temp custody/support hearing today. I am freaking out. Don't know why, but I am freaking out. Wonder if he will show? I will be upset to see him. Upset not to. My mom is going with me. He is my trigger... if I see him I get upset. I don't want to cry. I want to stay strong and look like I have it together. If he brings his girlfriend, I will flip. But surely he's not that stupid... oh but who knows? Wonder how the judge will rule? Will we have enough money to live off of? I'm scared. This is really real. It's really happening. I'm scared. I don't want to deal with anymore pain... too bad it's far from over. I just wish that I was worth more to him that I apparently am. This fricking sucks. This whole situation is crazy. It's just been two months since I found out about the affair. It's all happened so fast, yet it feels like it has been going on forever... wish me luck. I don't know how I'm going to hold it together, but I will. I've been reading previous posts and journal entries trying to remind myself that I don't want to be with him... this is just an emotional reaction. But I don't need him and will be alright. Sigh.... oh here we go.


Summer

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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 11:45am

Good luck and sending CALMING vibes your way. I know court can be an intimidating place. Just remind yourself you do NOT deserve a man like this. You deserve to be treated with kindness, respect, and love. He has shown you blatant disrespect. You are worth so much more. Just remind yourself of that when you're waiting in the court house. And it's wonderful that your mom is going there to support you.


If you end up crying a bit...then you cry. It's not a sign of weakness. Let the tears flow, but hold your head up high. And please let us know how it goes. I'll be thinking about you.




What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 3:57pm

Oh Summer..... let us know how it went.


BIG HUGS!

Karen ~ wildlucky4me

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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 5:02pm

UPDATE: SOB is paying hardcore now! Court went very well. He didn't get a lawyer. Didn't hav e a clue what was going on... He has to pay me $1360 a month inbetween spousal support and child support. Ha! That leaves poor baby only $500 a month. How will he continue to live in fantasy land on that? Oh the grass isn't greener on the other side? Oh that's too bad. Oh you still have responsibilities to your family... oh that's too bad. OW thinks she's getting a sugar daddy. Tramp has NO IDEA! She'll be supporting his butt. Haha. The spousal support is just until the D is final... which is a minimum of 60 days. I can string it out if I want... and I plan on stringing it out some. I graduate in July... hopefully I'll be able to find a good job then. So I should be JUST FINE. And well... he won't be. And he has to pay my attorney fees. And we have a bankruptcy that we need to file. If I don't... MBNA will be garnishing his wages soon. Poor thing. That's what you get for screwing up our finances, walking out on your wife and child and breaking my heart. Reminds me of that song... "You shoulda thought of that when you were cheatin'!" REALITY CHECK BUDDY. I feel fantastic. It felt good to stick to him. And on the way out I told him if he wnated the baby, he had better give me 3-4 days notice or touch. No more calling on Friday expecting to have her on Sunday. Told him I wasn't dealing with his crap anymore, and I wasn't organizing my life around his schedule anymore. And then I said, oh yeah, have fun paying me over half your income. Ha. Going out with my girls to celebrate tonight. Maybe I'll score some phone numbers. I look darn sexy today. Lol.

Summer




Edited 4/28/2006 5:08 pm ET by baby_socks
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Fri, 04-28-2006 - 5:16pm

Gotta love the Sara Evans tune ;-)


I'm glad that things went well... and that you're feeling good about it all.


Have fun tonight :-)


Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~

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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 7:56am

Summer, I'll bet you do look darn sexy ;)


I'm really glad that court went your way today, and that you're laying down the law about how you want to be treated. Good for you! I hope you had fun celebrating last night.




What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 8:32pm

Summer,

I'm glad that it went so well for you... I hope that you and your friends had a blast last night...

*hugs*

Julie

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Sat, 04-29-2006 - 11:11pm

Man oh Man, there IS justice in this world!!!!!!!

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 12:46am

STBX was so clueless. I don't think that he had any concept of

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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 6:24am
It probably didn't help he showed up with no lawyer.