Custody Evaluation??
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Custody Evaluation??
| Tue, 08-01-2006 - 12:10pm |
My story---I left after 18 months with my 7 month old DD.
| Tue, 08-01-2006 - 12:10pm |
My story---I left after 18 months with my 7 month old DD.
Just from what you say, it sounds like a CE might help you. I would say that you should talk with your attorney about it for sure and get a referal from your attorney. YOU want to be the one choosing the CE!! So, you could agree to it IF he will agree to use (name) for the CE. KWIM? A good CE is one who is totally unbiased. However, your attorney may know one who will side with the mom more often than the dad which would work in your favor.
I agree that this disruption in your baby's life is not warranted. He is already getting more parenting time than most dad's of babies do IME.
Where does his mom live? If she isn't too far from you (within 30 minutes), you might want to talk to your attorney about letting his mom care for baby one or two days a week (however much his mom wants) while you're at work. This would look good to a CE and the courts. It would mean that you are doing everything you can to make sure baby has a bond with x's family. KWIM?
I am being court-ordered to have the CE.
In my area, the court chooses and appoints the evaluator. You can only have a different person if you disagree with the credentials or evaluation of them. I did not know that in some courts you can choose your own. That sounds odd.
It sounds like an evaluation is the best course since neither party can agree. If you can both choose a particular person, it sounds like it could be a bit unfair as one could choose a person who is not so unbiased as they should be. In that case I suppose you have to have your own for the same reason you have to have your own lawyer. If you must take one evaluator chosen by the courts, I would just accept that one and split the cost. If you have a problem with the evaluator, request the court appoint a different one (of course with reason) When you see the evaluator, bring with you any evidence supporting your claims. Theoretically, an evaluator should be experienced enough to see through any %%%% and try to see what is best for the child. And that, theoretically, is a good thing. But of course there is always anxiety in wondering if theory will be put to practice. In my case it was. Just hang in there.