D Day 4/13
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| Fri, 04-14-2006 - 9:27am |
One of the few times I have posted here was on the weekend of 2/3 when my XH moved his things from our home after 37.5 years of marriage and I was quite unhappy. Thought I would update. Yesterday, 4/13 was the hearing attended by my X because he filed and the divorce was final. TX, where we have lived for 4 years, is way quick compared to MD which was my home for 54 years, and where I am moving on May 1. 68 days from start to finish. My post in Feb. was very sad, and the following weeks have been very difficult, but I want people to know that progress is possible with much hard work. Acceptance is hard, but necessary. I have opened my own checking accounts, arranged for my move, gotten an apartment, and managed to keep my grown daughters away from my angry "baggage." I have had support from a DivorceCare group, my friends, and my family, even my X's family. Ask for help, but in particular find a Div. Sup. Grp. It allows you to vent once a week, crying is ok too. There are not too many places in which to do that freely.
My lawyer called my X and me "poster children for collaborative divorce" which is a particular legal process that can only be done with mutual cooperation. I highly recommend it, but realize that when there is much anger and bitterness, especially with minor children, it is not always possible. I do read this board every day, and am saddened by reports and stories of how selfish behavior affects so many children. My hat is off to those of you who struggle with the kids each day; I have only myself now to worry about, as the grandchildren are happy, as are my daughters. My X and I each have strong, loving relationships with all of them.
Now, today is the first day of the rest of my life, and my jeweler friend called to tell me that the right hand ring I had made out of my old engagement ring is ready! Good timing, I say. Good luck to all of you, and I will be continuing to "feel your pain." Thanks for being there, even if you did not know you were....incredibly brave bunch!

Thanks for stopping back in to give us an update.... and I'm so glad that it seems like things are moving in a positive direction.... even for a sad time in your life.
Best of luck to you... and drop in to see us here any time!
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
It sounds like you are moving along wonderfully! I'm glad you have wonderful support to help you through this.
And your new ring sounds like a great idea! What does it look like?
What lies behind us and lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. - Ralph Waldo Emerson