DD told me what XH & GF said....
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| Sun, 08-06-2006 - 3:02pm |
Just a vent....
I had called the police in my XH town (1hr away from me) he had an outstanding bench warrant for non payment of CS. He is over $3000 behind.
However, he is on his 2nd kid with his GF (his other 2 kids are being supported by welfare when they are both able bodied to work)
his GF and him just got a new van
his GF and him just moved into a new place (still hasn't told me the address)
So he missed a court date in May -- so I called police in July. He was picked up and they quickly (his family or his GF) paid the $500 to get him out. Now he has another court date in August and if he misses it you can bet your booty I am calling again if this is the only way I can get $$ from him.
At first I was like "nah I will work 3 jobs that I do and I will provide I don't need *&%$ form him..." but alot of people told me it isn't YOU the money is for. It is for YOUR DD. Why should he NOT have to be responsible for her? He does. So when I do get $$ from him which was last time (before his warrant) was January I used money to save for when it was spring at bought her all kinds of spring and summer clothes. Lots of them and I didn't feel guilty because I wasn't OUT any money. Not that I wouldn't do for her because I would.
So she returns from her visit with him last week he says to DD "when your mom and you went up North on your vacation your mom called the police on me and I had to go to jail because your mom is MEAN!!" GF put in her 2 cents and said to DD "yeah your mom is mean and nobody likes her."
Told DD "daddy went to jail because he didn't go to see the judge when he was supposed to. The police know when you don't follow the law and when you don't they come and arrest you and then you have to go to jail to straighten it out."
Had to explain to my DD that words are words whatever her daddy and his GF say about me she (DD) has every right to say "that is my MOM and I don't want you to talk about her that way." I even told her even when you are with me and I say something not nice about your dad for what ever reason you tell me "that is my DAD and I don't want you to talk about him that way."
Sticks adn stones my break my bones.....say whatever the heck he wants but tell you what if that is the only way I can get you to pay for our DD then miss court again and I will call again and again and again....he gets the priceless pleasure of being able to see and spend time with our DD then why can't he provide for her?
Just venting......thanks for reading

Oh my gosh... (and I um, child proofed what I really said when I read your post)... anyway, does you decree have anything in it about not speaking ill about the other person in the presence of your child? This needs to be stopped and now... I frankly don't care what he or gf ~thinks~ of you as long as it doesn't come out of their mouths when your dd is around...
I know you have issues with collecting the back child support, but I would also discuss this conversation either with your Friend of the Court or your attorney...
Sending lots of hugs!
Julie
True Rebecca... I mean, mine says it and I don't have to worry about it... but only b/c xh never sees Joey and if and when he does it is never xh alone with Joey... his mom or aunts or brothers are always there and they wouldn't stand for it!
Julie