Dealing with friends husbands
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| Sun, 05-27-2007 - 9:35pm |
I'm separated 4 months now. I get along with my H very well and we have a wonderful DD together. I am not ready to file for D yet, but I do feel myself moving slowly away from my M. For example, I am not ready to become involved in a R with someone else, but recently started to think it would nice just to "date". See what's out there, get a feel for the reality I will soon face. Maybe meet a nice guy to boost my ego a little. I know....shallow.
Anyway, besides work and spending time with DD I have been investing a lot of time trying to "DO THINGS"with friends and family and have been making arrangements for activities. There are a ton of great things to do in the summer. Festivals, beach going, zoos, wine tastings, movies. All of my girlfriends are Married. No problem, right? Wrong.....so far, two of my friends' husband's (at separate times) have made comments to their wives about "hanging out with me". Like all of a sudden I am a bad seed. At least they were honest and said what they were afraid of. That they would see how much "fun" I was having and suddenly want to be single again. I mean COME ON! Are they that insecure?
I haven't excluded anyone in the things I invite everyone to, meaning husbands are welcome. And some things are kids oriented, so we do them with our kids like go to the zoo or whatever. I was wondering if anyone else was having these problems and how you've handled it. I guess there is nothing I can DO really, I just DO NOT want to make war. This is supposed to be fun and I need to keep busy but I am not "guy hunting" or anything - YET.
Thanks!
Edited 5/27/2007 9:36 pm ET by toohard2do

I sort of know how you feel. 2 of my best friends are married and the one who is divorced is in a relationship with a new man so I never see her anymore. I feel like I need to find people in the same lifestyle as mine seeing as the long term friends I have are busy or enmeshed with their men.
I haven't had the husbands expressing far over their wives going out with me, but one never knows what fears they harbour. And as you say, as if my life is so peachy that they would want to dump their hubbies to adopt a similar lifestyle. Not likely.