Dealing with letting go

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2008
Dealing with letting go
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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 5:17pm

After 24 years of marriage, my husband says he loves me but is no longer in love with me. That was Oct. 5 07


He moved in with his parents two weeks later. I feel betrayed and rejected. I am so angry with him.


I know I need to let go and let myself heal, but I keep thinking if I wasn't enough for him , will I ever be enough for anyone? We have 3 kids 22, 19 and 16. I hurt for them. They are great kids and are dealing with this so wisely for people their age. I just want to get through this with dignity and grace. Any advice?

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Registered: 02-14-2005
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 5:36pm
I'm afraid I won't be very helpful as I have only been dealing with this for a month myself, but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. Trust me, this is not about you or anything you did wrong so do not go there. Now more than any other time you need to remember what a strong, smart, spectacular person you are and you will make it through this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-12-2007
Wed, 01-30-2008 - 7:48pm

You sounds like a good lady.

KRISTIE
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2008
Thu, 01-31-2008 - 7:04am
Thanks for your reply Krista. I really appreciate your words of wisdom.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2008
Thu, 01-31-2008 - 7:10am
I am so sorry you are dealing with this as well. It sure is a blow to our sense of self. You are right. Sometimes people are battling with their own personal demons and we just have to hang on to God, who we are and stand strong.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2008
Thu, 01-31-2008 - 1:17pm
You and I are in the same boat.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2008
Thu, 01-31-2008 - 1:35pm

I feel for you, having to live in the same house. My husband and I work in the same building so I see him on and off throughout the day.


You are right. We are going to survive. My sister, who lost her husband to cancer, told me " You have a choice to make.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-31-2008 - 8:38pm

I'm in the same boat.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-30-2008
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 9:21am
Thank you for your reply.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2007
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 12:03pm

I can see in your posts the pain that each and every one of you are going through.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2003
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 12:42pm

Hi distanford,


It's tough, but it will get better.

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