Dealing with letting go

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Registered: 01-30-2008
Dealing with letting go
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Wed, 01-30-2008 - 5:17pm

After 24 years of marriage, my husband says he loves me but is no longer in love with me. That was Oct. 5 07


He moved in with his parents two weeks later. I feel betrayed and rejected. I am so angry with him.


I know I need to let go and let myself heal, but I keep thinking if I wasn't enough for him , will I ever be enough for anyone? We have 3 kids 22, 19 and 16. I hurt for them. They are great kids and are dealing with this so wisely for people their age. I just want to get through this with dignity and grace. Any advice?

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Registered: 01-30-2008
Fri, 02-01-2008 - 4:49pm
Thank you. Going through this, I feel like a crazy woman sometimes. Feeling calm , scared, angry, happy all in one day! Feels like the old proverbial rollercoaster. Joining this "village" has made me feel normal. That is such a relief. Hang in there girl. Diane.
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Fri, 02-01-2008 - 5:25pm

The condo was not what I wanted.

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Sat, 02-02-2008 - 8:46am

I understand what you mean. My dinner last night with friends from church was great, but I realized I was the only one out of six that was in this situation. All the others are married. So, put on a happy face and talk about everything else.


I like having this venue to talk to people because we all understand to a degree what everyone is going through and have insights that those that haven't been in this situation don't have.


"The" perfect place is out there iladyja.

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:12am
Boy, this sounds like I could have almost written it.
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Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:43am

There seem to be so many of us out there. I guess I realized this, but until it happens to you, well, it's like many other things. You understand it more clearly. Please keep in touch and let me know how you are doing. I feel good today.

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Registered: 02-04-2008
Mon, 02-04-2008 - 10:54am
Thanks for the encouragement. I just never thought it would happen to me.
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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 11:27am

I hope you have

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Thu, 02-14-2008 - 12:32pm

Happy Valentine's Day to you! We are going to be just fine. The other day I was listening to someone talk about healing of broken marriages. They made an interesting point. They said if we keep looking to other people to fill voids in our lives we are always going to end up feeling disappointed because people are not perfect and are not capable of that kind of expectation. I have decided to put my hope and faith in God and leave my marriage in His hands. I can't change my husband, but I can let God help me change my attitude and me and my life.


I feel ok today. Actually, I feel happy and calm. I haven't felt that way for a long time.


I hope you do something nice for yourself today. God Bless you. Diane.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-14-2008 - 7:20pm
I found it very hard to get through today.

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