depression + epilepsy
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| Wed, 01-03-2007 - 4:14pm |
I got married to a man who was 12 years older. I loved this man so much, still do...we have a five year old and am 4 months pregnant. He lost his parents 18 months apart in the first two years of our marriage and since has had severe bouts of depression that he denies. Added to that he is epileptic and with each passing year more and more seizures occur and he refuses to treat them medically. This is crippling around 5 days every three months where he is incapacitated.
He supports us very well financially, but works third shift. He has slept thru nearly the last three years of our lives...with the exception of weekends. He always finds time for outings with friends. He has little to do with our child, but nonetheless loves her dearly and she him. I am a college grad but haven't worked full time because we both believed in me staying at home with the kiddo. That changed over time. This last year I found a full-time job that of course doesn't come close to his earnings. He feels that my job however, because I enjoy it is worthless and meaningless and a waste of gas and time.
He moved to 1st shift temporarily and I got pregnant. Things seemed better at that time. But now, we are back to dealing with the extreme highs and lows. I love the man he used to be....not what he has become. I can't help someone who doesn't want help he just "wants to be left alone". My worries and concerns to him are just products of the excessive nagging I provide.
I am extremely athletic and active and am involved in so many community projects. The man of 190 pounds I married 6 years ago is now 340 and are sex life has dwindled due to his repeated refusals. I don't know what to do....I do love him and I cannot say that enough but how can I continue when he himself says he wants me to leave at least twice a week. I did yesterday, should this be permanent?

Hi~
Should it be permanent?
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~