Desperately help needed. Engagement
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Desperately help needed. Engagement
| Tue, 02-13-2007 - 12:18am |
Hello all,
I guess I just need to vent. I've never been in a true serious relationship before this. I've been with an angel for 5 years.. been engaged for about 1.5 years. and now it's all coming to an end.
It's probably all my fault.. partying.. not showing enough love..etc. Now I'm finally seeing the light and it's too late. I think I lost her. And it hurts so bad.
I've had a rough past and a lot of things go bad. I've been to plenty of professional counseling and nothing has seemed to help me.
Now, The only good part of my life is suddenly gone. I don't know what to do. I feel like a ghost roaming the streets. It's so sad and so depressing..
I don't know where to begin.
I'm sorry for ranting. I have no one to talk to about this. :(
Rick

Hi Rick,
I'm sorry that things are crumbling.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Karen ~ wildlucky4me
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
I can't tell you how good it is to hear a response!
I don't have the closest support from my family and since I was dating her, many of my friends married and I lost contact with them.
An understanding voice helps so much as I'm going through a very hard time (and I've had many in my life). It's so hard to go through it alone.
Thank you!
Hey Rick - it is hard for everybody to loose in the love game.
You say you think you lost her - did you actually split, or you are just worried about it? maybe it is still time to get things in good shape?
Also, I am sure your friends are still there for you, and will be happy to have some of your news. they will for sure welcome your trust, and may have some good relationship advice... or not!!!
One of the few (very few) good things of a break-up is to recognise who your friends are. Look around, and talk. YOu will be surprised how sympathetic people are, and how much they are willing to listen and to help. Everybody's been through it at least once!!!
Hi folle,
I believe we have split for good. We have been going down hill for a while.. Probably mostly on my part. I've been having a rough period in my life and did not take the relationship as serious as I should have. (I did not physically cheat on her but I have made ofter mistakes)
She started hanging out with new wealthy friends that have been looking to fix her up for months since they knew we were heading downwards. I'm fairly sure there is some activity on that front and of coarse I'm getting no support from HER friends. I can't compete with her friends ability to wow her by their money and possessions (nor would I necessarily want to on that front)
I confronted her this weekend and said I was willing to give my all to make this work but I got the impression it was too late. I lost the love of my life because of my inability to understand love. Now I'm very hurt and there's not much I can do about it.
Thank you for your support.. It's a hard time right now. especially around Valentine day.
Thank you so much!
Well, it may be hard to hear, but there isn't one "love of my life". there are many... if this one was the love of your NOW, you are also changing and growing - and another love will come to fulfill the new you.
If she is so sensitive to money appeal, perhaps she isn't right for you anyway. It is right to see our mistakes, but it isn't correct to blame ourselves for differences that have been there all along. Perhaps you are lucky that this was spotted now, rather than after a marriage and 3 kids - you could have instead a miserable divorce.
I agree with the fact that lucky things are being caught now.
I honestly don't believe she is materialistic. Sure any women likes to be wowed by things but I dont' think she's all about that even with her new friends.
It's just rough because I know things were my fault for taking things for granted, not taking the relationship as serious as I should, not understanding her resentments.. Now I understand all of that. I mean I'm going through was she did for a while. It's like we are living a year apart.
I wish it wasn't too late as I truly believe based on our past experiences that we are compatible and that If I continue to better myself we could be great together. My fear is that I will better myself and then it's too late. She will have moved on.
Thank you for your help!