Details on court yesterday & settlement
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| Wed, 05-31-2006 - 9:18am |
Ok, now that I have come down from my cloud! lol Here are some details:
Basically the BEST thing was that they fell for the custody wording ... I know that if & when he realizes it, he COULD go back to challenge it in court, but for now, i will just know in the back of my mind, its there for Avereys protection when he is nutz (like he was at pick up this morn, surprise, surprise - telling me he hopes the plans crashes with me on it, IN FRONT OF AVE ... when of course, SHE will be on it too ... A**wipe - & about his 16 yr old neice staying with us? "& tell Brit she isnt MY neice anymore" - he also said to Ave "& Mommy & Daddy went to COURT yesterday b/c MOMMY wants a divorce & Daddy doesnt")
Anyway, the negatives were I am only awarded $303 a month CS based on his "unemployment". *I* happen to know he is working under the table & making WAY more ... but I am not challenging it at this point. If i need to, down the road, I will. I need some time to NOT be fighting. & no, we didnt get his pay attched at this point. In reality, i am ok with it b/c i will just keep records of what he doesnt pay & its money in the bank for me to take off that 2nd settlement payment 4 yrs from now.


If you are happy with the way things turned out, then we are happy for you!
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
Big congrats. I don't know if you have thought about it, but I think that over the many years that you have been posting about this very difficult divorce, you have probably educated a tremendous number of women.
IMO, most young ladies getting married do not know that if their husbands live off of them during the marriage, the men can continue to live off of their wives for some time after as well. I will voice no opinion here on whether it is right or wrong, but I do think it is something every person should know before entering on a marriage. You did a good thing, rlch. Have a great trip.
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Thank you Rose. Yes, i have thought about it - I myself was educated & supporterd on SO many issues by women (& MEN!) on these wonderful boards .... getting through my pregnancy, raising my dd, dealing with my X's alcoholism (if it werent for the ladies on the Alcoholic Support board, who knows if i would even BE where I am right now b/c THEY made me SEE he was an alcoholic), losing my Mom (Moms w/o Moms board), & then the divorce & domestiv violence boards.
Often i thought "should i post this?" B/c yes, i know i posted a lot of very personal stuff that some people may not agree with doing. But i felt like if anything I had been through or was going thru,
Oh yeah ... lol
He actually already is saying "My grandfathers expensive antique watch had BETTER be there...."
Karen ~ wildlucky4me ~
Yeah, Rebecca... sounds like it all worked itself out just perfectly...
*hugs*
Julie
Rebecca, I am so happy for you! Congrats on FINALLY having this settled and being able to get some peace of mind about it all.
Have fun in Italy!